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Hi
I am a new member of the club. Iam impressed by the suggestions and advises given here to others' problems. I have a problem, which is quite common. I am married for 5 yrs. Both of us love each other. The thing is my hubby goes to office around 12 noon and comes home around 2 early morning. He wakes up at 11, takes bath, has his breakfast and leaves home. He has his lunch and dinner at office. So I hardly get a chance to speak to him. He does not call me over phone either. Even if I call him, he is busy at office. We have no baby, and rarely have sex. Our sex life is like once in 2 months. He is at home only on Sundays, even that day he wakes up at around 12 noon, has lunch, sits for hrs watching TV and finally sleeps. I could bear this no more. I have told him several times, making him understand our situation and my lonliness, but he only gets angry and shouts at me. I was working. Those days, we hardly met each other. Now, i quit my job as his timings are like this and he asked me to give a gap so that he thought i would be happy, but this worsened me. I feel very lonely and depressed. Both our families are far away. I dont know why he is not able to understand my feelings. I am pretty looking, energetic, lively. He does not have any other affair. So, why is he spoiling our relationship? Is this family life? This is untolerable for me. Can u pls advise? Decent replies pls. Ann replied. I don't know if you will like this advice or not. First of all, try to have a kid. But if your husband don't want kid, then keep yourself busy in several other activities. you should join a gym, make new friends, watch tv etc.
But if you join job again, then you won't even be able to talk to him daily.It will be worst for your relationship. manju replied. Go back to your job.Just plain tell him that it is boring at home.
Things will be alright.
Goodluck sony replied. Hi LN,

Can understand your plight and problem.
It was a bad decision for u to quit job.try and start work again.Ignore him for a while.Dont keep going after him.Make your own friends(girls) and take out ur attention from him for a while.Trust me...this should change him.
Live for your self....
All will come back to normal and if all goes well, try and plan for a baby...
It is usually a miracle and bonds souls.
sometimes, long years of marriage without baby makes life boring and monotonous.u will have company with the baby...
u can write to me at rhythmsingh at yahoo dot com