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Hi,
I have been visiting these forums pretty often. I realise that lot of you offer genuine advice to people' s problems. I too need help.

I am getting married in 6 months.My inlaws will be living with us. My in laws (as of now) look very nice and sober people. My fiance says that I can do anything I want in my life and in-laws wont create any trouble. He himself is ok with me working...studying doing anything. They are pretty liberal people otherwise too.

The trouble is that I am too too too scared of living with in-laws. My finace has communicated in advance to me that his parents WILL live with us no matter what. He is too commited to them. I am very scared of the daily saas-bahu issues. I hate this concept of parents living together but I am accepting this only bec of my man. Reading the posts here I realise that this situation can cause too much trouble for me in future.
I am very uneasy and scared about the whole matter.

Can you please say something to me? pinks replied. first of all cool... these r just marriage jitters...and not necesary that ur life has the same saas - bahu drama as all have...i am married for 3 years and i was so independent before marriage..studied in U.s..got married in U.S..and finally when we came to india 6 months back am staying with my in laws..they are pretty cool people so no issues...i do what i want.. i cook wen i want,i go out, i meet frens,meet mt family,me and hubby plan dates:-)!...etc etc! luckily my MIL is supportive..FIL is kind of cranky but i dont care....now majorly all this is possible if you have your hubby' s support..so dont tell him things like you wont live with his parents etc... if he says they will not create problems then just trust him( u know him better)... and next time the topic comes up just tell him you are happy to be with his parents but u have your rules like tell him you want to set up your room and take care of it etc...he should spend good amount of time with you as well.go out bla bla bla...or watever u want! make sure u both have an individual life though u all stay together.
lot of ppl have problems..but each ones case is diferent..depends on hubby,his parents,upbringing,social status,geographic location etc etc...
so just be cool and dont feel too uneasy...a little jitters is common anyway ..
hope this helps