Hi all,
I got married 3 years back(arranged) and delivered a baby boy 3 months back.Since very start i am having problems with my m-i-l.Now after the baby its getting intolerable. Just 1 week after my delivery she used to force me to give him outside milk..i didnt give up...And now shes feeding him with banana' s, biscuits, outside milk,chapati, rice an what not...I am tired of telling her to stop as its not good for the baby..but she doesnt bother....I have tried explaining my husband...but she doesnt even listen to him...Earlier she used to poison my hubby' s mind, continuously taunt me regarding my parents,She has given me strict warning that i can enter kitchen only if i cook as per her whimps and fantasies...i cant do anything as per my wish ...whether in kitchen or anywhere else in and out of home....if i share my problems with my husband, she scolds me,i cant wear clothes as per my choice,she doubts my relation with my s-i-l' s husband and doesnt let me talk to him..i am distressed...i feel like committing suicide
Even my husband had some issues with my f-i-l.....so we decided to move out....but then used to emotionally blackmail my husband ...and finally gave up....I dont know wat to do.....Please help
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Hi all,
I got married 3 years back(arranged) and delivered a baby boy 3 months back.Since very start i am having problems with my m-i-l.Now after the baby its getting intolerable. Just 1 week after my delivery she used to force me to give him outside milk..i didnt give up...And now shes feeding him with banana' s, biscuits, outside milk,chapati, rice an what not...I am tired of telling her to stop as its not good for the baby..but she doesnt bother....I have tried explaining my husband...but she doesnt even listen to him...Earlier she used to poison my hubby' s mind, continuously taunt me regarding my parents,She has given me strict warning that i can enter kitchen only if i cook as per her whimps and fantasies...i cant do anything as per my wish ...whether in kitchen or anywhere else in and out of home....if i share my problems with my husband, she scolds me,i cant wear clothes as per my choice,she doubts my relation with my s-i-l' s husband and doesnt let me talk to him..i am distressed...i feel like committing suicide
Even my husband had some issues with my f-i-l.....so we decided to move out....but then used to emotionally blackmail my husband ...and finally gave up....I dont know wat to do.....Please help
falguni replied. have u heared abt tit 4 tat ,,,,why dont u apply tht urs mil use 2 create drama at home u also do d same ,do 1 thing if u have any faithful doctor frnd contact 2 her tell ur problem n plan a drama ....u tell ur husband tht ur baby is not seeming well so lets go 2 doc...n u take him 2 ur frnd whr acc. 2 plan she vll tell ur hubby abt d corns of outside feeding n also tht it can lead 2 permanent weakness in ur baby,,,wht i mean scare ur husband, n after tht u start crying tht u dont wana loose ur baby ,,,remember he is a father i vll definately melt down ....n after all v r doing nthing wrong its just 4 ur baby n make it sure tht ur hubby shud never know abt ths plan
all d best
whr thr is will thr is a way
BHAVNA replied. dont take it lying down coz it' ll get worse, its time for u to assert urself if not forurself for ur lil one.
n remember - ur baby needs u the most, so drive away thots of suicide on the contrary turn things around and in no uncertain terms let ur MIL know that the baby is ur child and not hers n that no one can come btw u n him.
Be STRONG, believe me its now or never for u.
talk to ur husband - dont nag or complain just let him know that ur mother is too dominating....and u' ll see he' ll come around too.
all the best,
B.
Kriya replied. hi priti,
If you feel like comitting suicide, you are a coward. Not facing life' s problems with courage!! Why ?? Lose your life for whom ?? you MIL ? FIL ? Arey they so worthy ?? think about it! I have gone through exactly similar problems like you, you can say duplicate occurence of events. Read my post below and you' ll realize.
Get back to your MIL strongly. I think you werent strong enough with her from the beginning. Thats why she' s dancing on your head now. Show her your ' durga' roop now..trust me..scare her that she cant mess with you anymore. Be very very strict with her. And dont, mind you DONT give in. Convince your hubby to move out and live separately for a year or so, so that things settle and then we can decide later how to go about this issue. Trust me, your MIL will change as soon as you guys move out...
Concentrate on God' s gift to you, your baby....have fun with him and enjoy his childhood.....ignore that lady...ofcourse i know how difficult it is...but try to....
2009-01-14
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Name: falguni Subject: 2 u swtheart
have u heared abt tit 4 tat ,,,,why dont u apply tht urs mil use 2 create drama at home u also do d same ,do 1 thing if u have any faithful doctor frnd contact 2 her tell ur problem n plan a drama ....u tell ur husband tht ur baby is not seeming well so lets go 2 doc...n u take him 2 ur frnd whr acc. 2 plan she vll tell ur hubby abt d corns of outside feeding n also tht it can lead 2 permanent weakness in ur baby,,,wht i mean scare ur husband, n after tht u start crying tht u dont wana loose ur baby ,,,remember he is a father i vll definately melt down ....n after all v r doing nthing wrong its just 4 ur baby n make it sure tht ur hubby shud never know abt ths plan
all d best
whr thr is will thr is a way
2008-12-10
#2
Name: BHAVNA Subject: DONT TAKE IT LYING DOWN
dont take it lying down coz it' ll get worse, its time for u to assert urself if not forurself for ur lil one.
n remember - ur baby needs u the most, so drive away thots of suicide on the contrary turn things around and in no uncertain terms let ur MIL know that the baby is ur child and not hers n that no one can come btw u n him.
Be STRONG, believe me its now or never for u.
talk to ur husband - dont nag or complain just let him know that ur mother is too dominating....and u' ll see he' ll come around too.
all the best,
B.
2008-12-10
#3
Name: Priti Subject: thanx for the suggestion
Bhavna thanx a lot...i have tried being strict with her....then she creaes a drama at home in front of my husband as if i am the culprit...and my husband doesnt turn up saying anything...hes a coward....i told him my mil is feeding ur child with biscuits....he says :slowly the child will get used to problems he will be facing because of this but he wont speak to his mom....& says that i also say anything to his mom as it wont be right...afterall i m a d-i-l...and i dont have any right to say anything
2008-12-10
#4
Name: Kriya Subject: for priti
hi priti,
If you feel like comitting suicide, you are a coward. Not facing life' s problems with courage!! Why ?? Lose your life for whom ?? you MIL ? FIL ? Arey they so worthy ?? think about it! I have gone through exactly similar problems like you, you can say duplicate occurence of events. Read my post below and you' ll realize.
Get back to your MIL strongly. I think you werent strong enough with her from the beginning. Thats why she' s dancing on your head now. Show her your ' durga' roop now..trust me..scare her that she cant mess with you anymore. Be very very strict with her. And dont, mind you DONT give in. Convince your hubby to move out and live separately for a year or so, so that things settle and then we can decide later how to go about this issue. Trust me, your MIL will change as soon as you guys move out...
Concentrate on God' s gift to you, your baby....have fun with him and enjoy his childhood.....ignore that lady...ofcourse i know how difficult it is...but try to....
2008-12-10
#5
Name: priti Subject: thanx
mu hubby doesnt listen to me.....hes a puppet of his parents....he warns me not to say anything to his mom....and the child will get used to the problems hes facing b´ coz of diet.... hes a coward & doesnt take any action... till & until the problem comes to him and he becomes the victim
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