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I am married for last 9 years with a 7 years kid. Earlier my wife and mother had small complaints from each other which I was able to solve. 4 months back i had to be away from home for a month. At that time they had a argument and my wife moved to her parents home. On my return I was able to bring her back with a promise that I will build a seprate home for her on first floor and parents will stay on ground floor. But there fights are growing uglier day by day and my wife has started frquently fighting with me also asking me to leave my parents and move to another location. I dont want to leave my parents as they have grown old now and need my support. I feel totally disappointed and frustrated. Pl help. tara replied. I think the you hit on a big point. Your parents are aging,might not be alive much longer. Where do you want to be when they are no longer with you. A divorced lonely man? Or a married man with a happy wife? I think your mother and your wife are really fighting over your loyalty. A hard choice and one where your loyalty and priority is really is with your child. You need to give him a happy and healthy emotionally mother. She can not be this if she is living in a home where her personality and your mother' s personality do not get along. Some people just can not live together, without it being fault of either of them. Some people move to their own homes but go see their parents daily and help them around their home. FairLife replied. Talk to both of them separately, and tell them how the other feels. Do this a few times. You should see some change slowly set in. Be positive yourself. Tell your wife and mother also to be positive minded. Everyone has a good that is enveloped in bad, much like a rose that is shielded by thorns, or a jackfruit by bitter skin. If all of you keep that in mind, you will be able to reach the fruit. I am sorry I cant be any more specific. By the way I am going thru a somewhat similar situation too, and that even though my parents live in the ground floor, while we live above. sai replied. its common in every household for watever reasons, to hav a peacful life for all its better u rent an accomodation not very far frm parents n then u can see them wen reqd, ur wife wont be there anylonger.....