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Hello

I am married for more than 5 years now.I have a very loving & nice husband whom i love very much.We have a beautiful daughter & i am due in feb .WE dont live in joint family.Its my mil who even after my father giving so much money during our marriage & even they got money from my husband for marriage expenses did not give me any gold jewellery from husband side.i mean she should have made some for me.Whereas she took money from my husband twice before marriage & told him she will get gold for his wife.But i was never given any gold from them.This time whn we went to his brothers wedding they made gold bangles for his brothers wife she said her son did that.I am thinking of talking to my fil about it.she always makes me feel bad.please can somebody give any idea.
sudha replied. Hi, I have almost the same story.My MIL wanted to keep all my gold(from parents side) in her safe keeping.I did not let her .Till date she keeps on crying about that to my husband.

Forget about that buyt do not let your husband forget that such things were done to you.If you can influence him your job is done. He will tke care from then on. You hve to have him in control. When your MIL hears about the gold from her son she will know tht he has come to know of my doings,i better wtch out. Mel replied. DO NOT TALK TO YOUR FIL about your MIL. That is a perfect recipe for a disaster. You know what, just forget the gold. I know it' s irritating. Mention it to your husband just disappointedly... and tell him that it' s ok, but just that you feel as if you are being treated like an outsider and the new DIL is being given better treatment. That way you win your husbands favour, and he will be aware of their games. My ILs did not even give me a mangal sutra for our wedding. Not even a ring, nothing. It' s useless expecting something from these people. Just forget it. If you pursue the matter, your FIL will discuss the matter with your MIL and then they will pounce on you. Trust me. My MIL kicked us out of her house when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant. I had to pack and leave within 1 weeks time, all by myself. So, after that I stopped talking to her. For all I cared, she could go to hell for what she did. Then my FIL came over and asked me to tell him why I was so angry at her, and that I could trust him, and he would help us by getting my MIL under control. So, I trusted him and told him my side of the story. The next thing I know, he discussed the entire thing with my MIL and she came over to clarify things. In the end, she just denied everything, saying that she never asked us to leave, but that we RAN AWAY. Can you believe the guts of that woman ! So, don' t trust your FIL. They both are one. And you will probably never ever get the gold that they took money for. Just make sure your hubby doesn' t give them any more money for gold. Let them shower gold on the new DIL. When she gives them a kick, they will come running back.