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hey i am not frustrated to have a boy in that case i wud not have cared to ask advice from anyone i wud have just gone for it. my question is about security my kids r all alone they just have me and my hubby u know what is like to be orphan no u dont know unless u r in my shoes this MODERN SOC uses orphans to all possible extent. with my second child i knew it was girl but i did not abort coz i cant kill my flesh and blood. my daughters r eaually important to me its only for them we r living. i am scared only about that the issues every women has in india. can anyone assure me that yes picture in india will change in cuming 20 yrs. pl reply only if anyone really understands the essence of the question we r not here to argue but help on issue if u feel wrong just dont reply simple leave it thinkin what u may think.
MY DAUGHTERS ARE ANGELS I LOVE THEM I DONT NEED TO PROVE MY LOVE FOR THEM ONLY COZ I AM WILLING TO HAVE A BOY! nita replied. hi
sorry..another harsh word frome me.whats the gurantee that u and ur hubby die first???..don't think too much abt wat hasn't happened.live life to the fullest each day and count ur blessings wat u have.in this so called modern society son looking after sisters is a rare thing.each individual is trying to live lives on his own terms.i think bonding among sisters are more strong than with brother and sis and i have seen its mostly sisters who help and be with each other even after parents are gone and even after they themselves become grannys. sj replied. sheetal we are 2 sisters and have a brother and now i realise that it is easy for us as we will always have a pihar erven if my parents get old
i know people here can talk trash but have they done any thing to change the society,it is easy to say blah blah ...but jis par beeth ti hai wohi dard samajh ta hai
sheetal u can try to find out if any one gives treatment for concieving a boy
you can see site genselect dot com
silver replied. hi dear!I couldnt read your question and thread in previous post but I got ur feelings.What I advise is though 'someone' told u things little harsh,she was correct.I was going to ask same q's and read her reply.
So ,everyone outsider thinks same 'bout this query.

Know what,After 20years no brother can give a home to his sisters like parents.He'll have his own family and ur DIL cant be that broadminded to treat sils as daughters.
Even ur daughte cant be that comfortable with ur son as they feel attached to u.Once u both will be out of this wold,(sorry to say, but this si ur doubt,right) ,ur daughters can be supportive to each other they dont need any else.After all they'll have good famililies of their own.
So, dont think of unnecessary issues and stop ur self pity.

Bring them up attached to ach other and stop bothering 'bout future.All u can do is to provide good education and career and marry in to god famiies.U need not to provide another child imaginating he'll be a support.It's not guaranteed he'll be support but now u have to share among three what u have .Adn thus may not do justice to all of them resulting unthoughtfulparents.

Think 'bout what they really need now to get in to their bright future.Dont lock them with ur old-time mom thoughts.
Because I saw many inlaws treat their sons to be born to take care of daughters and spoiling sons lovelife with his own wife.So, If u'll have another son,U r going to be the one among them while spoiling one another GIRL(ur DIL-To-BE) 's married life.

Sorry for talking so practical ,dear!

Pray god to give ur daughters good future that they dont need any support after u. And u both too provide them all they need for their bright future.
Someone replied. Sorry don't mistake me for replying harshly like this..but I am trying to make you coem out of your shell...
First thing, Tell me this..Who is Orphan now???..You and your hubby?..or is it your girls?..or are u guys planning on commiting suicide any sooner???...
..Why are you worrying about your girls becoming orphans..?..Even if you and your hubby die they have each other...atleast if parents of an only child worry like this it makes some sense....
2 kids and 2 parents who are alive and love their kids..You are one happy family!
What is there to worry dear...?...OK.The essence is this: India will change in 20 years if you start to change...First throw back all that inferiority complex about female race and start to fight back dear!.
Make your dream a practical thing by starting to work for it... Idea replied. You start one more message with the same title 'third child?'..then it will perfectly match with your question!!!..
3 kids and 3 messages..How is my Idea?