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Hi Friends,
I read many of hubby related problems and in-laws probs.Yes I have them too.
But I have some different problem too .
My hubby is so Egotic person and does easily make friends with his talkativeness.And that easily he;ll loose friendship.
He is so headstrong and very egominded and cant take any word that he doesnt like easily. And simply he forget them.
I am so loving and kinda adjusting to all my circe but because of him I dont have any good friends here around.

He doent want to attend any party in our circle and doent like to meet them.He got differences with everyone though they r not obvious and seen to anyone,But none has good feeling 'bout him ,I could know it easily.

Not only the present circle.He doesnt like anyone foem our parents side too.He feel they r hypocratic and pretend like they r living posh.That is not true ...we r from begining used to adjustable to new generations and latest things. it shdn't be his problem to deny us.

With everyone he'll have some or other problems. I accept they r not perfect.But how they all r mingling with each othery cant we? After all wqe r too not perfect ,right? Y shd we expect anyone?

His brought up is like that and My SIL is too of same kind that doesnt have long lasting friendship with anyone.
He is not shy or reserved,He has tomuch of leadership qualities and feels everybody shd respect him and love him.HOw can they behave to us what we like?!

He hassoem good friends who love him . he used to like them too.Now that they too came near by us and settled here,He starttd commenting their lifestyle too. and now he doesnt like visiting them frequently?!

I argue we shd sometimes adjust to some circumstances and we never shd be the start point for coming differences.
Still I have soem best firends here and he doesnt want mte to continue this with them.Because they r not economy and spends lavishly and impacting me too.Somehow he's correct but they r nicer to me. and they never force me to buy this or not.they r not even sound like us (touch wood) but still lead a lavish life.Still I never feel I'm missing something because I like my way of living and never force him to be like their hubbies.Nor he does listen to me if I change even.Then y shd I loose my friendship?

My present problem is ...his problem with everyone.He doesnt have nice relationship with anyone.except his family members that his mom told good 'bout.
He is so loving and bonded to me and my daughter and doesnt want to mingle with anyone else.

Do I have chances to see him changed?I tried telling him sweet what I feel,but he never listen to me. and he says 'I know maintaining relations better than u' !

I believe we shdnt loose our self respect but at the same time ...no one should dislike or disrespect us for our ego reasons. We sd be loving and gentle to everyone then people love us.
But he gets friends very easily but soon starts figuring out wrongs 'bout them and moves away slowly and other end they can observe his dislike towards thm and they too start moving veryclose to him.

This is making me feel bad bout my hubby.
Even he doesnt like my parents and relatives though he didnt meet them much.
He feels he and his parents r perfect but none else! even daily he makes annoying comments on us. I believe he is not that perfect as he feels.
How to maake him know what he is?
Preeti replied. Hi Dinu,

You should be happy. Your hubby is a good man. To him the most important thing in his life are you and his daughter. Most men especially in the western spend more time with his friends than their family. I hear complaints from girlfriends and wives all the time. Friends are okay but sometimes they interfere in the relationship causing problems. He knows his friends better than you and thats why he doesn't trust them fully. Its okay for you to have friends but dont force him to accept them...as long as he polite to them then just accept it. His family has taught family is most important thing in world thats why he loves you and your daughter so much. The only thing he should change is when he talks bad about your family. Tell him nicely, its hurting you alot and to please stop saying bad things about them. In return you also promise you will not talk bad about his family, this only makes you look bad in his eyes. You know some people are natural born leaders and some are followers...he is a leader and he wants the best in life and thats okay...as long as he doesn't hurt you or your daughter you dont have to worry about what other people think of him. You love him and thats what matters the most.

Best Wishes
Preeti ss replied. Sorry honey Idid not see this message of yours..I asked you to tell more about your hubby in the other post!!
Now let me think about this and write to you sooner. dinu replied. not that he is mean.He is good educated ,can make friends easily ,loving and caring to me.
He has certailn strog feeling that he is always right.
Yes, he is good decision maker and has good name in his career too.
But problem is with friends and circle.So pl tell me how to change him.There r still persons that they love him and admire his intelligence. But how shd I change his attitude towards othres.And how to make him to like atleast some people irrespictiive of their downsides??

Now that we r planning to settle in india..Its becoming headache for me because all my relative side everybody maintain sweet relations and My mother has no SIL and MIL issues and things r smooth.So how to deal with him? we r certainly going to stay in a city where our parents and relatives r there .I'm feeling like living in remote city because of the feeling We'll become topic of relatives.But he cant move out of that city as its' nearest branch to his parents.
Only option I have is to change his attitude .Hw can I achieve it??!
Plz reply me friends!!