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Please read it carefully b4 jumping to conclusions.:

I don't get one thing what made you feel that I have snatched my hubby from his parents.
You think standinng up for one's right is fighting so be it.

My hubby maintains his relations with his parents,on the contrary I have to remind him to call up his parents.I am a very down to earth and a practical woman.

I can never imagine him to be separated from his mother,just like nobody has a right to pull me away from my parents.In fact I like his parents just like I love mine.

Without having kids i understand that aspect and never am for separating anybody from anyone.

I still don't get how you concluded that I have separated my hubby from his parents you can surely ring up my hubby and find out.

And acc to you saying a no to ur in-laws is fighting and saying yes is being obedient.

Whats the point in doing everything they want and talking bad about them and acting as if we are the good ones.I don't like the hurtful stuff my in-laws did ,I told them that they hurt me.

Well if you say i fought so be it,it changed my life.Today we are on good terms.My mil cares for me today.

What makes you think that I did not think of other options before voicing my hurt.

My hubby felt and still feels scared to leave me alone with my mil not b'coz i fight ,but the fear of what might happen to me if I am with her even for i min.

I did not scold anybody but only expressed my opinion.

Why do you keep replying for Sneha this was meant for Sneha,and nobody told you to fight with your parents at all.It was a generalised statement.

Ok maybe I misunderstood about the abortion part, why does she want to know the gender of the child at 12 weeks.And she has very clearly stated that she doesn't want a girl at all.

How do you know what Sneha is going to do or not do regarding her baby.You speak for people as if you already know them .Fine you may know her.

But u assuming that I have separated my hubby from his parents IS SOOOOOO WRONG.You don't even know me.

I have clearly stated AGAIN and AGAIN that it is not wrong to wish for a boy,but if you wish for it personally don't blame it on ur in-laws as to \";it is for them that I want a boy,I agree with HELLO on this .

P.S:The very fact that I keep saying do not blame it on in-laws would tell you about how I care for my in-laws. Pavithra replied. If our great leaders had stopped fighting,thinking that it is useless to fight for everything.Gandhiji used to to satyagraha,the are of non-violence and hunger strike.But it was just not non-violence that helped also the fights of others.

Imagine if they felt too tired to fight and felt why are we doing this,it will only spoil the relations in the long run with Britishers,what would have become of us.

Strange they voiced their protests against the attrocities of the Britishers.

Similarly voicing someone's protest against attrocities done against them is not wrong.

One can maintain their individuality without harming the relations,you don't need any extra ordinary skills or a P.hd for that.And you don't even have to start verbally or physically abusing the person.One can do that with plain and simple words.
Pavithra replied. I am not crazy to just start fighting with my in-laws for no reason at all,it would be even crazier to fight if they haven't said or done anything or fight with them as soon as I see them for no reason at all.My hubby and my parents would have put me in a mental asylum.

You think my hubby would support me if he didn't know his mom,he himself told me when he saw his mom's dark side with his very own eyes that,\";I Knew my mother ill-treated her in-laws,but I thought she would take care of you b'coz you are her son's wife\";.These were my hubby's words.

You are right about one thing though,you do not know what I have faced.

And if you don't have any in-law probs good for you and happy for you,nobody shud have one.

You say there are other options to deal with in-law issues.Please tell me some other options.

The fact remains I don't have any today.But I deal with spiteful remarks every now and then about not having a child,I ignore them.

Guess what my parents do not know the probs that I have faced with my in-laws,why I didn't tell them,b'coz i didn't want them to have bad feelings or opinions about my hubby or his parents.And after my in-laws came to know that I have kept mum on this issue with my parents,their respect for me has increased manifold.