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Hi,
I have a 19 month old daughter whom I have been sending to an Activity Club since she was 14 months old.Its a mother - toddler group where all the other 6-7 kids are almost the same age group as hers. Howver since I am working , her maid cum our cook who looks after her full time takes her to the class which is for 1 hr. Now problem is that she will play all the things, participate in dances and all , watergames etc but WILLNOT utter a single word. Even after 6 months of going there , knowing the teachers and other kids and their moms, she wont open her mouth to say even a Bye! Every one is like a bit surprised and I am really worried. At home she is just like any other normal todler, recentll started to put 2-3 words to form a sentence, understands almost everything , can tell u the name of many objects and above all can recite 2-3 line rhymes in correct words and tunes! I am curently making her to learn the alphabets and numbers and she is progressing fairly ok. She can even tell u which is oval, which is square and triangle etc etc. But at school she behave that she does not have a tongue! No amount of coxing from the teachers helps. I have talked with them and they are quite considerate about it. Other kids in her group do at times speak out , if not regularly. My daughter wont even do that. I am really anxious abt this. Please suggest me a solution. Do I see a doctor? or should I change her school and see? I feel that maybe she is a bit intimidated by all these adults. Maybe with kids only she will be a bit more responsive. I am saying this because she mixed with her cousin who is 2 months older to her really well and talked in their own language tho for a breif time. Howver she does take a bit time to open up to strangers and takes anywhere between 5-7 days to start talking with them. This problem is in school only . I am really worried now. Somewhere I have read that this is an extreme form of shyness which needs early intervention so that later on it does not hinder a kid's progress in the class.
Thanks
Durba diya replied. hi,
It looks like we are on the same boat.
my daughter is 23month old and she is an active kid. She speaks very good,can tell some of the nursure rhymes, even she knows certain shapes like circle, triangle etc.She likes to play with our friends who are familiar to her. I take her to library for story telling class and she goes to a day care for 3 hrs 2 days a week. She is learning lot of things there. But if you see her outside with all new faces it does seem like she can't talk, she doesn't know anything...She hides behind me.She doesn't play with other kids.
Is this a serious problem ?? Do i need to talk to doctor ?? I'm really worried about her.
How is your daughter now ??