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Just want to vent out my anger..
We dont stay i a joint family but my MIL wants to control everything from her house itself. Recently my mom came to visit us for abt 15 days... and through one of my husband' s cousin who stays in the same city as we... my mil got to know abt my mom' s visit and she created a fuss abt that. She has all the rights to come and do whatever and all the right on how and where we spend etc.. and my mom cant even come visiting. Now, i feel like keeping my parents with me for good. I am soooo angry. Though my husband is understanding and just told me to ignore her.. but, her words are ringing in my ears and want to give some good answer.. but, i prefer not talking to her when i am angry otherwise i might feel bad later.
Thanks for this board, at least i can share my thoughts and feel somewhat better that there is someone understanding how it feels.
Thanks for reading. Zena Patil replied. Its a good idea from ur end that u decided to give a deaf ear,but at the same time u should not think of getting ur parents for good, cause that would cause a serious problem to u later into ur personal marital life along with ur husband. sonu1 replied. hi PR

Yes u are right...best not to say anything when u are angry as sometimes things come out of ur mouth that u later regret....best thing to do is calm down first and when u have a free moment just speak to ur mil and tell her that u dont like they way she behaves and please make sure ur husband is present...whether he speaks for u or not but at least later ur mil cannot make things up that u have said...
the other option is that just ignore and keep on calling ur mum over to wind her up more thats what i would do...lol dont stop calling ur mum over just becuase ur mil does not like it....let her moan...soon she will realise that u will not listen and hopefully give up..its good ur dh is supportive...mine also never says nothing to me but also never speaks up for me too but i would rather have that then my dh always blaming me.....
good luck and let us know how u get on monika replied. I know how you must be feeling. You are very lucky to have your husband on your side . Its also great that u are able to keep your temper in check & avoid speaking tO MIL & suddenly your husband is not on your side.
WE are here to listen & sympathise. I have gone through lots of problems in my joint family & the worse thing was that my husband was also not on my side.