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hi

well im quite a regular reader of this board and thought of posting my problem..maybe i get a solution.

the thing is im quite fed up with my in- laws.Not that they ill-treat me or do anything wrong,its just that they are very persistent about things.They want everything in discipline,very particular about small small things and specially my FIL he is always worried about what food has to be cooked.he wants to know the whole menu of the day...its so irritating sometimes.

my MIL does nothing except watching TV and cribbing about her own SIL with me sometimes.i really dont like chatting with both of them because inspite of being nice and caring towards me...some things about them are so irritating.i have tried ignoring them few times,i even thought they are old so just forget what they are doing...but still sometimes i really get depressed seeing them all the time and their stupid talks.i want to be amongst my own friends and circle.

My hubby is busy,and after coming back from office if i start cribbing about his parents he gets more upset.actually my in-laws specially FIL is extreamly traditional and orthodox.though he has changed with times but somethings are still closed in his mind...like DIL should wear decent clothes at home,participate in cooking during festival and small small petty things i cant remember now.he was strict wih my MIL also...she accepted,but not very strict with me but when i see other girls living in freedom and doing their wish even after marriage i get very jealous and start blaming my luck...my hubby has tried to change my FIL attitude but he cannot fight with him and make things do the way we want,nor do i want any fights at home.But how to make them understand that we both also have BRAINS to do things.they are very over-protective about both of us...even about me.i dont understand is this love or domination.
They have not done any thing bad with me..i know they care,but me and hubby r not kids.i can manage
without them also,they just want both of us to respect them,listen to them and be happy.when i see my friends living without in-laws happily,doing what they want i feel like telling my husband to leave his parents...i have become so mean and self -centered,but i just want to be happy in life which at present im not.i dont know what to do i am so irritated.how to tackle them without misbehaving. helppriya replied. even i am going thru the same situation, hubby refuses to leave inlaws, sometimes i feel like leaving him and live on my own. sss replied. hi,
there is nothing i can advice you to improve your situation other than learn to adjust and accomodate.i myself has written a query under role of inlaws section with the subject how to learn to adjust and be happy.you can refer that as i got some good responses there.
it is always better to live on your own rather than being with inlaws.there is no doubt on that.but husband' s wont accept that even if they agree the same from deep within.also you might need their help when you have a baby.so whatever situation you are in,you have to accept that and be happy.or if you really want a change,discuss with your husband in a friendly way and work it out.all the best.