Relationships  Discussion Forum

this is update u all about my life....
i am ok..now....touchwood...i hav no probs....
as i told u all earlier....my sil is fired from the job...she has made my mil' slife misearable ...miserable is not the word...my mil was jumping with happiness whn she came to know she is terminated...she thought she will harass her the way she harassed me by giving work...

my mil use to wake me from my sleep....even she wanted a glass of water...
one sunday...she made me do dosa for bf....can u imagine how many dosas i must hv made....? atlweast 40...
2 kgs rice...two 1 1/2 kg ..chicekn...one for dry gravy...n one for normal...gravy....
at 11 am she came in kitchen she to ask me is the lunch ready i was grinding masala for normal gravy...sh wasked me in a very rude manner....
tears started rolling down my eyes..( i am in tears now also recalling this) she ddnt even bother to ask me y are u crying she left from kitchen saying by now i wud hv comleted lunch now...n we eat lunch not b4 1.30pm....
while making that rassa i was so tired i cudnt stand ...coz my legs were shaking ..n i was in 8 moth of preganncy...n i had entered kitchen at 6 am in the morning..n except for tea i ddnt have anything in my stoamch...
that day my husband had major prob in his office...he had gone to work on sunday...

last sunday ...can u all believe what happend...my mil told my sil to make same rassa...but only one rassa....n sweep n swap the floor...while sweeping...she started cry8ing we rushed to ask her what happend she said my stomach is aching we rusehd her to hospital...doc said everything is normal...
she complained to her gynace about my mil..she said she gvs me ltos of work...she told this to her mother every1...
every1 scolded my mil...on sunday nmight my mil was crying non stop....i recollected this incident that thime...god ..is there for every1...
my sil doesnt even move from her gadi now...all the time she calls my mil...gv me this gvme that...if u see my mil face u will realise ...how depressed she is...
i am feeling bad for her..
i do all the house work..b4 coming to work...i told her to keep some work but she doesnt listen to me..she does all the work b4 i reach home...but i dont do any of my sil' s work...
daily she tells my mil..make this i feeel like having this..i feel like having that...pity on my mil...
only god can help her....

u all mayb thinking there is no msg from me...cozmy mil is right now busy with my sil... Namita replied. i have afriend who also stays in a joint family with bil and his wife ... earlier my friend use to do everyhting inthe morning, use to cook food bcoz both her husband n bil needs full dabba ... now she says this sil is not doing nything, she dnt even cook whole food for bil, once this sil told her mil tht i dnt like to cut fruits nad give it in hand if my husband wants he will take it ... aap ne in sab ko sar pe cadaya hia mai nahi kar sakti .. now my friend feels bad tht i hve done everyhting whtever they had asked n my mil use 2 make me do everything .. bt. now no one have guts to say nything to sil .... now her mil is being good with this friend and now my friend also praises her mil n feels pity abt her ... bt my friend have bought a house then y is shenot tking her mil with her if she feel both r good with eachother n feels pity abt mil' s condition bcoz of sil Ritika replied. Dear gg,

What is your relationship with your SIL right now?

The reason I' m asking is because I agree with sss a bit. It does seem curious to me as to why you are so gleeful that your SIL got fired and so sympathetic towards your MIL for not being able to order your SIL around.

Although you say that it was your own fault for suffering so much because you never spoke up or blindly followed your MIL, but when your SIL is now speaking up and refusing to be cowed down by your MIL, you speak of yr SIL as if she is doing a wrong thing.

I am also finding it surprising that while she is pregnant, she is being asked to do so much...and after hearing how much your MIL illtreated you, I don' t find it in me to be sorry for this lady. She cares 2 hoots for her DIL' s and their health.

Pregnancy is a time to enjoy and the mother should be treated with love and care...Whereas she (along with all her dear sons in the family) has behaved so badly - first towards you and now towards your SIL (by asking her to cook for 15 people).

What the heck are your husbands doing??? Don' t they care that their wives should have a worry free and healthy pregnancy!!

Tell me again - why you guys cannot keep a maid to do the housework?

Whatever is happening in your house, is not good for anybody...and there will be another little baby in that house soon who will be surrounded by so much...

sss replied. dear gg,
i can understand you and i am not saying that you are wrong or something.i was just trying to see from your sil' s side.anyway you are at peace now,and that is all what matters.you can divert your attention to your hubby and daughter without worrying about others.that is good.when it is a big family small issues like this are bound to happen.dont worry about it.be cool. sss replied. I feel that you have developed an unhealthy rivalry with your sis-in-law whom you admired a lot in the past. What is the real reason behind that? Do you think she is really mean? Think from her side. She is pregnant and not getting love and support from anyone from in-laws side. Is that good? Do you want her to suffer in the same way that you did? Why?
She must be thoroughly upset now that she got fired from her job and her plans of living separately is not going to work. I would love to see you showing concern for her instead of being happy in her failures. And why do you think your mil is suffering? You yourself say that your mil is smart and an expert in controlling her sons. if she is very smart, she will be able to protect herself. so you don’t need to feel sorry for her. or do you think your mil is changed now?