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Update from my side. I talked openly to my dh after we discussed. He refused first, but then I asked him again after a day and he agreed. He told me he was getting into an affair but it was not physical yet. I tried to be a friend as you suggested but could not help crying. We also had a fight. And he kept telling me it was because of me cuz of my nagging and not interested in sex etc. This continued for 2 days and we kept drifting apart. I was reading our post and telling myself to stay calm and be his friend and trying it everyday. Finally two days ago I talked to him again nicely and like a friend. It was an open communication and seeing me not aggressive but friendly my hubby also cooled down and slowly opened up. Today we talked again and he was trying to indicate he is sorry. I was so happy to see this change in him and with this small success I am more confident about the way I should handle this. I am continuing to be his friend and not crib wife. Thanks to you dear. I dont know what would have happened if we kept figting on the affair. I will let you know more. But thaks from bottom of my heart. I see hopes to set my life back. Saheli replied. It was really good to read the improvements dear. Wish you two get back together and start normal life soon. Please make sure you dont nag him about his mistake in future. Hurt, revenge, pinching words ... it all leads to weakening the bond. Fine, he made a mistake. but he has returned to you which proves he loves you. Keep the vision of old age ... when two of you woould be old and yet together, sharing the wonderful bond. Respect him always as you have been before, and you guys will share a great marital relationship in future.

It takes a second to break a bond, but ages to make one.

God bless you.