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Name: Dd

Hi,
IT IS NICE TO KNOW THEY WE ALL R LEARNING TO COPE WITH THE SITUATIONS WE ARE IN IN POSITIVE WAYS.
Yes we still get upset about some samall issues but as ritika has mentioned in one of the replies don' t let it bother you for more than 30 min.
I am trying to practice that myself. When we went for a trip 21-24 dec. my mil had planned some religious pooja but did not informed us till last day. when we told them about our plans after all the bookings got confirmed, they told about ti to my dh just a day before leaving. he did not say anything to me bcs he knew i will get upset. whe we were there i came to know bcs my bil & co-sil were coming to puja & my dh was talking to them ( they live in other city.) that pija was suppose to be not very big but at the last moment panditaji added something &it became big. they also invited my parents, brother & sister' s family. also my mil' s parent' s & brother, sister' s family(they all livein same city) & some of the neighbours. I felt very bad bcs thoughi am not very religious my dh is & he ahs been always in front in any puja' s in our family till now. so all the guest' s were surprise about our abscence.
i got upset wjhn icam eto know but then i pushed it out of my mind as i didn' t want to spoil my trip. After coming back when i met my brother & parents they asked me why we did not stayed for puja & i told them we didn' t know about it. I haven' t met anyother relative(mama & masi' s family) ut i am sure everybody is wondering.
well i am not going to think about ti anymore about there behaviour.
My gynec who i am consulting is also a good counsaler & she advice me that now on any decisions involving your il' s side let your dh deel with it & any decison' s involving your parent' s side u dell with it & u have such a understanding dh, he is going to support u in evry way so stop wroying about all this things.


Today is fil' s elder brother' s 75th birthday, & my dh wanted to have a party(panipuri & bhel) at our place for him. so we have planned it. fil, mil & elder fil' s family will come but my sil will not attend and we both r ok with that.
So Hoping to have good weekend.

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