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Hi friends,Iam back from my short vacation but indeed it was a relief from all the worries i was in atleast for a short while too.I did not even mention about those two to my husband and yes I tried not to even think about them.Well when we landed here my MIL came and hugged my husband and told him Oh! you really missed something we had such a good party the arrangement was excellent.....Iam sure that we have not seen such a lavish party in the whole life.At 12 we all celebrated your sis(Canada) B' day it was such a fun(All the time her eyes starring at me ).I kept mum.Then she told my husband that you ought to give a proper dinner to their family too and it must be in a five star.My husband readily agreed they started calculating the people and topping the list was my SIL and her kids.(And yes we did wish the canada SIL from outstation but she was very busy so could not answer and forget about anybody wishing me)Finally the canada people did not have time so we were forced to invite them at home(MILS section) My husband was looking for very expensive gifts for them and he bought 3 of them I dont know whether he feels bad about such people' s behaviour.We gave them none of them thanked me or my even my husband for such lavish things.His mother has turned him into a giver only and he doesnt mind a bit.He says I feel happy only in giving I thought there was no point in holding a conversation with him on this point may be time will make him understand.Now suddenly after 2 days my MIL is all flowery talk with me and my SIL moving with a horrifying face.They are back to their own regular behaviour I hope Iam able to withstand it and I find courage to face them.It was nice to be back because I found a great deal of support from all of you keep writing thanks again. Srey replied. Why hello there. *smiles*

Yeah, I hate it too. Some people, have no manners, at all! (referring to the gifts giving). But, don' t blame them. Your MIL probably took all the credit from your gifts. :0

Have a good Day, bye. Ritika replied. Hi Geeta,

Welcome back and good to know that you had a nice vacation with yr hubby. :)

About all the parties that your MIL mentioned...I' m sure all the time she was thinking about you two and not her daughter..he he.. )

About the birthday party for SIL, you mentioned earlier that your birthday has been conveniently forgotten by everybody. The next time your MIL or SIL brings up the party topic, smile and tell them that \" humne to sabko bahut parties de di..lekin meri birthday sab bhool gaye...meri birthday party aap log kab de rahe ho..\" and then just grin and look at them. Let them squirm a bit...if they are totally shameless, even then let them hear that you know fully well what all of them are up to.

And next time anybody asks you for a favor that you do not want to do, say \" sorry, lekin main abhi nahi kar sakti hoon\" ...use the small and sweet word \" No\" and repeat it to yourself many times..when it becomes harder for you to say no to somebody, then remember the last time that person ill treated you. With that memory, saying \" no, I cannot do anymore\" will come easier...

And hey, did you start exercising? If not, then start from today...doing exercise makes one happier and less stressed...

take care,
Ritika