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Hi Dd

really to say i dont blame my baby. i just feel like crying what kind of atmosphere he will get when he grows up. every child has right to see a happy family. here with my MIL i am not able to keep my head high. she starts scolding me whenever she thinks then what that kid will get in mind when he sees that. how i am going to shape my baby' s future when i am not able to see mine. i know if he would not have been there, my condition would have been more miserable. his coming is our blessing. by seeing him i forget everything and even my MIL too. its just her psychic behaviour, which is hurting me most. i want to give my baby a self-confident mom who can share his dreams, happy moment not a irritated mom who is always worrying how to save herself from getting insults. i am sorry if i have hurt you by writing this but i know his value in my life.

Sorry for the way i snapped at u.
i understand your situation & was thinking about your problems & i have got one idea which u amy like to try to make your life better bcs this way u & ur kid r suffering.

u talk to your husband. tell him i am not stoping you for doing your duty to be good son but at the same time u r husaband & father u have to do some duty to be good husband also. so sit with him & decide that whatever amount of time he spends at home half of it should be with u.
for example if he comes home at 7.00 & u go to sleep at 10.30 ask him to spend time till 8.30 with his mother. let the kid stay with him when he is with mother & u unwind yourself & do whatever housework or preparation for next day.
than u can spend 8.30 to 9.00 with all of u having dinner. than tell him strictly that it is my time now so make him spend 9.00 to 10.30 with u. Initially he may be reluctant but u make that time as anjoyable as possible wit him & kid. u can go for walk, sit in the garden if there is any nearby, sometimes u can read some funny or good stories to each other.(i read one of the comic story series in magazine, we both like loudly & my dh enjoys hearing it.) u can reverse the role if he does not like to hear than let him read or u can take turns. u have kid , so u alos can read kid stories together. i mean one person reads & one enacts them for the kid.
also if one of u has access to laptop, u can watch some good movie dvd together lying on bed.(this worked for us when i was leaving with il´ s) invent some fun & relaxing activities which u both enjoy. yours was love marriage so u may have some common interest. u can try out anything that comes in your mind to make that time njoyable for 3 of u. this way your situation will improve.

now u can not change anything about your mil but this way u can make your life little bit better.

Explain,cry,fight,beg whatever u need to do for him to agree on this spending half time with u.
I HOPE THIS HELPS?
BEST OF LUCK