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I bet no one has done for there own parents as much as we are doing for in -laws now. And still our moms appreciate . And MILs....nothings enough...

btw...i m new in this message board. I hv read through this column and found quite interesting and helpfull. Well Mine! as usual the same probs...MIl...Ladies just a question ....i heard 97 MiL are like this....are we also gonna be like them when we get old and have DIL??
Obviously, they (DIL) will be young energetic and much more open minded as we are now. I know what we all have being through we wouldnt want anyone else to suffer. Perhaps, no one holds future in there hands. Most of our MILs also had being through this. Just put urself in there(MIL) shoes.
What i m trying to make out is that one day we will get old, sickly and tired as well. Natures fact is that when a person is in this situation, they would be hunting for someone to make a project on them devastately. So that they get their anger out on someone whose not there own blood. Unfortunately where we fall in (DILs). I know its not easy to tolerate at times but we have to, coz no ones future has being gurrantteed. We dont know how our children will treat us in future.
Our biggest probelm is that when they (MIL) says anything to us, we stand and listen to there nonsense. And when we get offended we reply them back or cry. which is distressing. What i usually do is that when i see my MILs face is grumpy i wouldnt face her and try to make my self busy with other works. or when she says anything i would walk out from there.
But the fact is we cant keep on tolerating all the time. And when a time comes we blast out like fire. and this makes us regret forever at times.

Really, dnt no how to make life better....it is miserable!!...



Neeraja replied. Neha, I guess you are getting a late response. Well, I am new to the board as well. What you write is so true, we women go through and that we carry that legacy I guess. Well one thing we can do and change is how we raise our children, You can make your son to stand out for appreciation and deny the bad words. We all loose patience and we all use our tougue as weapon. If we have a supportive husband who stands for good things of ours what more we want? They can defend us right. This the most scary part for INLAWS. So I want to do that. To stand for good things and say loud not to harras my wife for unneccssary things. I guess that is in our hands. No one knows the future, but onething we can do is to learn things from our past for future.