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I have been writing posts on this forum regarding my unhappy marriage from a long time. my husband is the only child of his overpossessive parents and they never let us be on our own on dinners/lunches/vacations etc. my husband has no problems with this behavior. its been 4 yrs since our marriage and we live with his parents in the same house. I have no kids. my husband refuses to spend time with me alone and enjoys the company of his parents. His mom is controlling in nature. My husband refuses to move out. he says i can get separated if i want to. I work. should i just get separated from him and free myself of all the mess? Pl help. what should i do? should i get separated and look for another life partner? Anaida replied. Hi dear this is really upsetting to hear please tell your parents about this before planing to separate as i think there must be some solution for the same, and you should not destroy your life like this. All the best dear. aslam replied. If he doesnt have any problem then you should get sepretated with permission and love. He allow you now. but if he does not have intrest in you then u should try to get understand his intrest and must be behave as per his intrest. In addition, still he doesnt like you then get seprated and choose a life partner who loves you. I belive each person has a right to live with love and enjoy the life but it should not be over smarter. after all we are indian and india is the cultural country. Proud to be an indian. Silver replied.
If your husband is ready to accept separation rather than spend some time away from his parents, then I think it goes pretty clear in showing where you come on his list of priorities.

You are a working woman, I am sure if you separate and find someone else, your life will be much happier.

I wish you all the luck in this regard.
May you find another man, who has the balls to live independently with his wife.

All the best!! At replied. Hi,
I believe you should first try to find out why you have been cornered! You take part in household stuff? You consider your husband house (the place where he lives) as your house? You visit your parents very frequently??
You spend time and discuss things with your mother in law or you prefer going to your parents house?
I think these questions would be hard ones but sometimes the triggering points are somethings that we dont really consider of much significance.

Regards, sr replied. Hi

I like Sonu' s suggestion. You have to sit down and talk with all of them. Tell your MIL they need to give you space and privacy.
Does your MIL ever pressure you for kids? Maybe you could tell her this when she puts the pressure. Malini replied. hai... Read your prob, I think you better speak to your MIL as per sonu' s suggestion. Tell her that you have no problem their son spending time with them but you want him to allocate sometime for you also... coz it is natural for a young lady like you to have desire to spent time with your husband. sonu replied. hi

sorry to hear bout ur problem...
ok what i think u need to do first it try one last time to sit and talk with ur husband and tell him if he wanted to spend all his time with his parents then why did he get married?????he should have stayed single then.....if he still insists that he will nto change then to be honest i dont think there is much hope for this marriage...its better u dont have children to be honest or else u will be the only one spending time with the child and ur husband will be engaged with his parents.....maybe last resort can be to speak to ur mil and tell her that look if things dont change then u will have to leave as u cant carry on being married to their son but living a single life.
its not point carrying on a marriage where there is no compromise.

good luck and let us know how u get on

xx