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Hi friends,

My brother' s 5 yr old daughter is coming to stay with me for weekends bcs bro & bhabhi r busy with some business related work. So i had planned funfilled weekend. I have one cousin co-sil here, whose daughter is good friend to my niece and also one of my friend has little daughter. so i had invited them at my place for saturday evening with the kids so kids can play in a park in my society & we all can have dinner together. I have aslo invitedmy dh' s cousins - 13 yrs old gilrs( mama & masi' s daughter) toplay with the kids.
I had told my il' s last sunday that niece is coming to stay for weekend. Now they have invited 2 of cousin sis & their family for dinner on saturday & expects us to go their for dinner. I am so fustrated that to do so i will have to cancel my dinner plans with friends & their daughter. we both (mydh & me) r confused as what to do?
my dh had gone to il' s house today morning to pick up something that time they told him about the dinner & when my dh told them about our plan, fil got upset. we feel strogly about fil' s emotions & do not want to hurt them. but in real delimma now as what to do?
now i asked my dh waht to do? he says (eventhough he is not happy about it) to postpone our plans for sunday. whereas i wanted have fun on satuday & relax on sunday.
so i am not sure now what to do?
Any ides or suggestions welcome.
Dd replied. Hi ritika & gg,
thanks for the reply.
yestrday I was very disturbed with some othe problem & so got annoyed over such silly issue.
I am feeling much better today.
I am also thinking of replanning. but saturday lunch is not possible as I will be working. & so that cousin co-sil has agreed to look after my niece at her place in the day time.
so probably I will ask them to come to play 2 hrs in the evening before i go to dinner at my mil' s place. or may be I can call them to lunch on sunday if I am not too tired.
I told my friend & she said she was not expecting diner anyways but will come to play with her kid.
Also I can ask my mil to invite that co-sil bcs she is her brother' s dil. so wan' t be problem with her I guess.
and those teenager cousins I can ask them to come to play on sunday. Ritika replied. 3 options according to me-

1) If you had invited the kids over to your place for the entire dinner, then can you take the kids for dinner to yr in-laws place?? They are just kids so the in-laws shd not mind, I think...

2) Or if you can ask your in-laws to move their dinner to Sunday night?

3) Or ask your cousin that you' ll have to move your plans for next Saturday?

4) Or tell your FIL that sorry, you already had plans that you cannot change.

If I were you, I' ll go from 1 ->4. I place 3 above 4 simply coz my cousin would be more amenable to changing plans than in-laws...

Whatever you decide, enjoy your day and have fun! gg replied. either make ur fil more bad by cont with ur plans or change ur plans..its upto u n ur husband ..what u want ?