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Hi all
As you know i have been getting impatient regarding this month whether any baby news will be there for me,but gods will is different for the time being i guess.I got my period today and am feeling very down.After my loss in jan where in i had conceived just in 2 months i really thought it would not be very tough to conceive again but i guess my body has changed after the natural miscarriage.Is this common archie? i have always heard the opposite.
Archie if you can shed some light on this from your knowledge i would really appreciate it.What should i do to monitor my ovulation.if OPK is a good idea then tell me which brand should i use.I barely have any CM , does this mean i dont ovulate?
Also can i have a period which is regular without ovulating.
today is may24'05
I have a 30 day cycle so next ovulation date i think is 8th june,am i right??? if yes then please recommend how should i time intercourse for best chances.
iam getting worried and am considering getting fertility tests,is this a good idea now?
I strongly feel that god almighty is the one who grants us our wishes always and only if he wills will it happen,however after a loss getting pregnant becomes even more priority as soon as possible , i was never this impatient when i was trying for the first time in oct last year but now things are very diff.
I hope you understand my situation.
Please suggest a rough plan i can try to follow and detect my fertile days and increase conception chances.Also iam planning to excercise regularly this month onwards and control diet.Any comments on tea drinking ,i drink 2 cups a day is this fine .

Sorry archie too many questions but i really need some advice.
thanks a lot
SSS
SSS replied. Hey All
Thanks a lot for your replies,i really appreciate your concerns for me.Also the information is very helpful.I am trying my best to give myself time and not be negative about my fertility and reduce stress of course.
I will give OPK a shot,clearblue i guess.that will also give me certainty of ovulation time as i keep wondering when i exactly ovulated.
Again closing this with a lot of thanks and best wishes to you both.
SSS archie replied. Dear SSS,
Having suggesting couples out here in over a year span I have learnt that most of the people on this board have anxiety trouble and there is no one can help them to get over the same. They have to learn the lesson and be positive about themselves and the whole process.
I won't repeat the fact that even if all is well you would have only 20%-25% chances to conceive and failure is always likely. If you go on statistics you will notice that there are less than 20% couples who conceive in first cycle then why the fuss on not getting pregnant in one round?

Be positive about yourself and your fertility. When you know you got pregnant before why would you want to go for fertility. True that fertility can change in one cycle but what are the chances, very little. Be optimistic about ttc and about both of you! Don't let this anxiety rule you otherwise you will be down each cycle. I have seen people here on this board like that, and I don't want you to go in to that group.

CM less or plenty is individual and when you know you don't produce good amount of CM you will automatically make kind of slow process of sperm flow. Here is a suggestion, you could have your orgasm combined, intercourse in such a way that your orgasm happens before your spouse ejaculate.

Can you take time after a loss?
Sure you can. If that was tried right in the next cycle after loss then you have had high chance to get pregnant not after taking break. But I would not recommend to go ttc right in next cycle after loss. Mainly due to fact that demise could be result of nutritional deficiency and I would want couple to take 2-3 cycles to get enough nutritions, store them in mothers body and get on folic acid treatment and then ttc.

Try from CD12 to CD16/CD17.

OPK -clear blue and try from CD10 in the afternoon.

Yes, you could get period without ovulation but normally one cycle a year can be an-ovulatory. If you get perids without ovulation in series of cycle then need to investigate cause and if needed give ovulation induction dose, clomid or sort of that.

If you come next time with your anxiety I might not answer, not that I am upset but I know that has no end.

Archie asha replied. Hi SSS,

First of all do not feel sad . I understand it is natural to have such emotions, but you should know that anxiety & depression never help, specially when you are ttc. So please keep them away and be brave.

Regarding your questions, Archie can definitely explain better. But I also felt like writing after reading your message, since you sound quite low. Here are my views:

Since I joined this group about 1 or 1.5 months back, so I had no idea about your loss in January. I am really sorry for that. You must be knowing its reason as well. I would ask you to analyse those factors which affected your last pregnancy-although I have no idea what went wrong last time. This is just a suggestion based on what I have seen in case of my friend. She too lost her baby in the early stages of her pregnancy and later it was found that she didn't have sufficient amniotic fluid. And she did admit that she was quite ignorant about her fluid intake.

About your ovulation, I think you should ovulate around CD15, that comes to June 9th in your case. ( Assuming today is your 1st day and you have 30 day cycle). So you should have intercourse from CD 11 to CD 17. Having intercourse before ovulation would ensure the availability of sperms in the fallopian tubes when an egg is released.

Reagrding ovulation kits, I would recommend you to use Clearblue- it is reliable and easy to use. If you have a 30 days cycle, you should start using the kit from CD 12. ( I am just guessing that you should see the surge on CD 13 or CD 14 and then ovulate on CD 15. A woman usually ovulates 24-36 after she detects the surge. And those 2 days are crucial. )

Another methods to monitor Ovulation is BBT . You can buy a digital basal body thermometer & note down your temperature every morning. But this method takes time and you will have to chart for atleast 2-3 months in order to understand the pattern. If you see a sudden rise in temperature in the middle of the cycle( just before your luteal phase), it means you have already ovulated. A woman's pre-ovulatory waking temperatures typically range from 97.0 to 97.5 F and post-ovulatory from 97.5 to 98.6 F.

Cervical Mucus- you might be knowing that CM of an egg white consistency is considered the most fertile. It is usually very slippery, stretchy and you will feel wet & humid around that time.

I have read in a book that a fertile quality CM often forms a roundish circle on your panty where as non-fertile CM forms vertical lines( rectangular pattern).

If you are below 30 and healthy, you should not worry much. Give yourself another 3-4 months and hope for the best.

And yes, you must eat healthy and stay fit. I think having 2 cups of tea in a day is not bad. Think positive.

Best wishes,

Asha