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Friends,

CAn u Please honestly share how much happy u r with ur hubby?

And how do u rate ur happiness if graded 1 to 10 (assume 10 as \" VERY very HAPPY\" ).

Let' s share how many of us are content enough with her man(HUSBAND) in life ?

How many are never repented for being in this marriage??

How much content we are with lives our lives after hubby came in???

Pl answer these while describing both of ur NEGATIVES and DISSATISFACTION! (later , in another discussion ,we can discuss about positives...Lets stop here with negatives!)


First,Lets share mine !


I rate it as 5. (Lets assume 5 shows ' not bad' relation)
My hubby is little egotic and believe in not bending to wife (I assume) . He is short tempered and gets irritated easily ...and shouts at me which makes me whole day DOWN ...and It happens often. never appraise my efforts but always there to make me down when things r not upto his wish.

Ok, this is about him!
Little About me ----I think I' m little dreamy girl at times, So expect always to maintain a peaceful and lovely atmosphere in home, SO cant be practical to accept the bitter truth...angers and romance r part of life...So cant accept his particular negative thing of being short tempered.So gets easily upset and keep scolding my badluck for getting married with an opposite natured person. I' m very cool and quite ...I never hurt ppl. But he nevr look for other ppl ' s feelings. He just express his frustration even when we r in public places.He even express a strange feeling at poor salesman if he is unable to bill the things faster in any mall.. He shows unnecessary frustration if any queue is large and need time to get what we want ....I hate this. I always wanted cool gentle man...but he is reverse. So, In this regard I' m unhappy with him.

He is unhappy because I dont do things in perfect way he want. He think I dont put 100efforts in what I do. But I know, I do atmost I can. So he is dissatisfied and feel I' m misfit for him. When he express it, I feel he' s a mismatch for me.


He dont want to sit and discuss this problem because he shows a deaf ear...and he just lead life how he want it to be...but not in the way I want...so delicate relation, I feel!

If I behave reluctant, he too be the same and never appraoch me to make things settle...He juts plays and plays with baby while making her engaged that she wont need me too.So I feel I' m more intrested than him in being lovely pair. He seems to be never mind whether I show intrest in him or not. He just cares whether his needs fulfilled in his way or not.

So I rated it as 5 ! .


So what are ur thoughts on it? Share whatever touch ur mind .


So this is my relation.Sometimes sweet Sometimes Sour..Sometimes Hot....To say frank...not verymuch happy with life.mechanical ...never respect my wishes like outings...rarely once in 3months.

Hope everyone tell about their relation ?!! sonu replied. Hi friends,

I' m really happy u liked this thread and ofcourse, I love u all r positive angels!
Accept and love ' him' such that we dont find it as negative. Thank you friends! Anyways ,I wanted to start positives thread too, BUT , do we need it now??? :) Most of you are just Poured out those positives without caring any negatives ...Its nice...Let us n' joy having reading all the positives too :))!
Namita replied. i m sorry i forgot tht this thread is for negative ... i hve jst written the positive side ... i gave 10+ ... bt. still there are few things i try to ignore (ofcourse now they are very very small compred to wht i faced earlier) so 10+ ... bt after readin wht sonu said \" This thread is dedicated to natural tendency of women who can excuse common mistakes of hubbies...\" i feel tht even i tried to excuse few things and gave 10+ ... nywys i vl mail my negatives in next thread where probably u all vl give postiives :) sorry Srey replied. 10+ Ritika replied. Hi Sonu,

I' ve never rated my marriage..all I can say is that I' ve a happy married life most of the times*touchwood*...am lucky that I have an understanding and helpful husband..we have our usual share of arguments, but nothing serious so far...ofcourse over the years, our relationship has strengthened and now he stands up for me in front of his mom..helps me with household work and baby stuff. Does romantic things like candle light dinners and weekend dates...brings me flowers on every special occasion. :) I love the fact that he is enthu about doing new things and exploring new places...and he says the same for me.. he he..I' m more in love with him today than the day I married him...:) the times when we have had a major fight, we' ve resolved it after I write him a long non-confrontational email explaining my point of view and why I said what I did. He' s always taken that positively and called me immediately with a sheepish \" I' m sorry\" or \" I love you\" ...:) Ain replied. I would give my hubby 8.5, our marriage is 9 months old :) I' m staying overseas so it' s just both of us. I minus 1 mark for not helping me with housework. Since both of us are working after coming back I have to cook, iron cloths, folding cloths, sweeping, moping, washing bathroom....etc etc everything myself. After I complaint so much, sometimes he helps me to do the bed and washing kitchen utensils(a little), That' s all.

I minus 0.5 for being very sensitive.

This two is the major issue, other than that everything else is managable so far....

gg replied. touch wood my husband...is sant mahatma...u can say he is like my sil...super cool...if my marrg worked then credit goes to him ...he neve r losese his temper...n the best thing about him..he knows his mother very very well...he knows she is a big liar ...n thats where i hv won the situation..initally we had probs..only coz of mil..sh e use to hv daily sessions of complains at night ...but without me compleaining to him..he himself got fed.up of her...n decided not to discuss what his mother did..coz its only on this we use to end up fighting ...
u know my mil biggest dream of her life is to see my husband hitting me..she succeeded in doing with my sil...iamgine just coming from hoeny moon n ur husbands who is just crazy about u hits u..but she showd her true colors to my mil..n put her straight in few days ...
same thing she had done with me...we were just back from our honey moon n my mil cooked up some story n created fight btwn us...
my husband is very nice that way...its not only me..but his entire family says that ..whoever know him says that ...buuuuuuuuttt now also sometimes he gets jatka ..for his mother...mothers tears work wonders...u all must hv gone thru my prob...but even i knwo how to handle..n i make sure that no body comes in our realtion...i use to discuss things with my mil..n other members about my husband ...but now i am very very particular baout not didescussing our relation with any1..no matter what..n i am happy ...
i never use to concentrate on my husband but after seeing my sil..i too hv started caring for him..n i can see the change....
my experience says...all the husbands love being pampered n they love the idea that soem1 loves them...i hv learnt this from my sil...who is younger to me....its very very important to gv importance to ur husband if u want to stay with characters liek this...
n ur husbands love keeps u happy too..u will 4 get ur in laws tension...
my husband too raised his hands on me..but never hit me as such..he use to get angry...but i have started copying my sil...n he is with me..touchwood...
thats y i tell ever1 be nice to ur husband...ur efforts wil never go waste..leave evreything whn u see ur husband...n run after him...
n no matter what u do for ur in laws u will always get kick in return... sonu replied. friends, thanks for responding...
I expect more responses from all of our regular memebers too..

Actually, Dd, I kept focus on negatives because many of pessimistic ladies like me can excuse their hubbies nature when thye know their hubby' s nature is not very uncommon! If we find women suffering like us with negatives...We' ll just tend to excuse those negatives as natural things.
This thread is dedicated to natural tendency of women who can excuse common mistakes of hubbies...



Know what, while knowing other negatives, sometimes we feel ... Ok, he is better in this case ...this way we shd be happy with him...
While digging negatives, we approach positive side of him. Many times, when I get angry ,I start writing his neatives...and my heart says, to see positives too. that way I get releaved.

Thanks friends,Keep sharing ur experiences...
helppriya replied. i rate my relationship with my hubby as somewhere between 5 an d6. though we get along well, we stay with my inlaws and usually fight on this issue alot. i think he should work harder on our marriage. so its no great marriage here. aa replied. hi Sonu, i like this thread, we can put a number on our marriages. I would probably say mine is 2 or 3. Pathetic!! i feel unhappy and i know that i will always feel this way. FOr those of you with better marriages, congrats!! rishta replied. Mine is much like sonu hubby.more an less like him.getting frustu at lone queues or bad traffic
plus problem worsened when his father passed away and mom-in-law stays with us
he is very attached to his family and does not listen to me
dodnt have peace at my own home
Dd replied. The saying ' APPOSITE ATTRCTS' is very true in relationship so we have lots of opposite. but we have learn to lie around those things.
I rate it 9.
I know many of u will be shocked.
why 9 bcs, he is very undestanding caring, loving etc. bcs u want me to talk about only nagatives let me tell u why not 10. what is negative. he is very hot tempered. though he is got very good patience but when he gets angry its very difficult to take it for me. i know why it happens bcs he lets go things 9 times & 10th time he gets angry so its alll bottlede up emotions so he tells me lot of bad words & than competely stops talking to me for 1-2-3 days untill my repetative efforts puts his anger off.
we both firmly believe no matter what & how much we fight we will never get seprated but i get very dpressed when we fight bcs i m very scared of sepration.
well if u ask him he will probably rate me 6-7.
He is task master & I tend to let things loose so he gets annoyed. andthere r some of my other habits that irritates him.
let me know when we can talk about positive.