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Hey girls,
I was going thru previous posts since past few days to find peace for myself as i was not able to express it to anyone. I came across something very nice yesturday & wanted to share with all of you. It is real good advice given by someone in one of the previous reply in march 2006.It holds VERY TRUE for everyone.

\" Every mil is different, some respond to be bossed over, some respond to love. I tried love and failed.. I dont want to be unfairly bossy and change my personality and be cruel to prove a point to a crazy lady.
But stepping up and giving ultimatum to husband is necessary. I asked my dad.. u were probably in this situation once..between your wife and mother..what do u think? I did this to get to my husband' s train of thought.. and here' s what my dad said..

My dad said: when men grow up they are bothered by constant cribbing and advises that his mom gives him as if he still is a child. So he marries hoping that this lady will understand him, be his partner and share his feelings. But if this new lady(wife) starts a new nuisance and cribs about his mom.. this is bad coz he knows his mom is wrong but doesnt want his wife telling him that. So be your husband' s confidant. Be the person he comes to after listening to his crabby mom.. dont be another crabby woman. Otherwise your husband will think..\" man.. i just got this from my mom...not again\"
So i took that to my heart. I dont complain about my mil and just state what my mil or fil said that bugs me and add that i am not complaining just letting u know what just happened and then talk about other things to him and be nice to him. He did change!!
My husband started complaining about his parents to him and how they bug him too.. and that helped me feel so better..and rmeber i didnt join him here. i just listened without any interest or concern and that made a whole lot of difference coz it felt like he was talking to a friend and not enemy. Dear girls, take this advice to your heart. Make your husbands your friend and not your enemy' s son to take your frustrations out and u will lead happier lives hopefully! Good luck \" jaishreeus replied. U really uplifted my moral today. I had rec ently posted my first turmoil post on indiaparenting and then went through ur post. U r right i will also try to do same. Wish me good luck.