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Hi All,

Its been two years since my marriage and not a single day of love and peace.Ours was marriage in which we both were looking for a match,we mwt in office,after one month my husband proposed,both parents agreed and we got married.
From start itself,my husband was everything for my MIL.She totally ignores her husband and has almost no relationship with my husband' s elder brother.SO from start she was as insecure as a girl friend can be as if i was some other women in her life.Then i got prgnant after 2 months of my marriage.Since my SIS has no child after 8 years of marriage,my MIL asked my husband to send me to my in-laws place for delivery.whereas i wanted to go to my parents or stay with my husband.my husband fought with me till 7 months of my pregnancy until i relented and agreed.there she made me cry and remain depressed.fortunately i got a beautiful baby girl and my husband got an onsite assignment in US.i thought thinks would be ok.but they have worsened.small arguments blow up into huge fights and i dont know why in a fit of rage my husband starts hitting himself and shouting and abusing.my daughter is 1 year old and she also gets scared.its like we both have no love no compassion no relationship...things which we should casullay ignore or just let go with a laugh lead to anger and voilence.he says i am too independent for marriage and i should not have ever married.he hurts me by cruel words and when i cry for hours then he gets more irriated and again that shouting and anger...
yesterday when my husband my doing all that drama,i slapped him and said that are you mad,so he is saying now that i beat him...
i dont know,i cried in front of my parents,that we are incompatible and i will do suicide,they say arguments happen all the time between married couple...............
what to do...
i want to do suicide but my daughters love is not allowing me...i want to leave but need strentgh from my parents but they also ask me to behave as per my husband' s wish so as to avoid arguments...
plzplz


suhani replied. Hi

i can understand your situation because i went through this situation during my pregnency time. In my time my MIL and BIL were doing all the drama of shouting and behaving like psychic but after my baby' s birth everything has changed and for this patience is really required. So please reply to priya' s post so that we can understand you better and help you out in this situation riya replied. hey
first thing i would like to say that never think of suicide
why should u die for a man who has no regards for u
even my husband is like that when he fights he starts fighting very badly shouting show somewhat physcic behaviour gives me damki that he would suicide and give balme on me my parents
i am also staying in this unhealthy for sake of my son but i doonot think so staying in such unhealthy mariiage is advisable.
talk to ur parents that ur qutting if they support u then o.k if they doonot then also u would fight
if ur firm no one can stop
last question are u financially independant or not?? Priya replied. First of all take a deep breath and read the post .. Lets see how we can help you .. Before that I have a few Qs.
1) Are you still with ILs or staying with husband and kid only .
2) You say anything small blows out of proportion .. Can you give few examples.
3)Yday you slapped your husband .. thats wrong .. !! but lets listen more abt this fight .. what led to the fight which became violent !

Reason for asking these Qs : I want to understand how you both as a couple handle arguments or fights !
Throw suicidal thoughts out of the window .. You will only complicate their lives even further ...
Give me a chance to help you by writing in detail ...

Take care
Priya