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I have been engaged and will be getting married soon. Mine is a love marriage .... everything is good but only fact is my fiancee cannot stand by myself... there have been couple of incidents and he cannot go against his father... also he send money to his father pretty regularly and i am not against it but he has not done enough saving for us .... i suggested to send a particular amount every month but he doent want me to interfere in his matters ... he doesnt even allow me to have a look at is account.... since this is a love marriage i think i should be aware of this ... i am not sure what i should do at this stage... should i go ahead in this relationship or not.... other than this he is a very nice person also loves and cares for me but whenever he has to send money to his parents he will forget all the responsibilities towards me ... .he ideally wanted me to give the rent for the apt as well but i denied ...i am not sure at this stage and very worried. can you please help me...give some suggestion Sister replied. Ok,got what u were trying to say.
See anu in every marriage there r many issues.Some people face such terrible things that u cannot even guess by seeing them.So my feeling is ur problem is not so bad that u should stop ur marriage.

In fact all men r secretive when it comes to financial matters.After my marriage I noticed that my husband was sending money more than what was necessary for his family while we were only in debt.I explained to him that we can send them less so that we can clear our debts.It worked out.My husband also understood.

But in the case of my friend even now her husband doesnt involve her in financial matters.

So it depends on the person & even how u convey ur point.Dont make him offended.Dont talk anything against his family.Just talk ur concerns & the future plans.He will understand even though he may take some time.
All the best. Sister replied. \" since this is a love marriage i think i should be aware of this \" ....this is not true anu.In any marriage the wives have equal rights.Y do u have this bias.DO u think if it is an arranged marriage there is no right for the wife to be aware!!!.I am surprised by ur statement.