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Joint Family:stay with in-laws??
2007-09-16
Name: aaa



Hi .... i am 24 and married for the past 6 months.....i am with my hubby in U.S.....and we wil b returning to india in one yr......my problem is that on returning i want my in-laws to b with me... and i dont want to stay with them.. they habe a flat in india so my husband plans to stay there....but i want to buy a flat and stay with my husband....if my in-laws want they can stay with us...i want to buy it with our money as we both earn....but it shud b in my house...how can i tel my husband this? i dont want to hurt anyone...as my in laws r nice ppl...and my hubby is also undrstanding
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2007-09-19
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Anonymous Name: se
Subject:  hi aaa



hi, since u been to u.s,ur lifestyle may b a bit diffrent.u shud buy ur own flat & stay by urself.occassionally u can call ur in laws for couple of days or wen need arise.but u shud not stay with them permantly although u can go and help them wen they need u.gudluk.
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2007-09-21
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Anonymous Name: aaa
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thanks se
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2007-09-17
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Anonymous Name: abc
Subject:  Suggest



You can just quote some examples you know about those who have their own homes. Then see what he has to say. Or ask him what are his plans after going back to India. Find out his opinion and also tell him that it is your dream to have a house of your own.
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2007-09-17
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Anonymous Name: aaa
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thanks abc
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2007-09-16
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Anonymous Name: minal
Subject:  Be firm



You need to tell your husbband and be firm about it. It is better that you live in your own place and they come to live with you if they want rather than you moving in with them. At this time your husband will listen, but he wioll not listen later. Even though my inlaws are veery nice, since we have moved in with them, they run the house and therefore my husband' s salary is also given to them , and I have to ask them for money (although they ofcourse readily give it), but point of the matter is that I would prefer not to ask them for money when it is my husband' s moeny.
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2007-09-17
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Anonymous Name: aaa
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thanks minal..but being direct may create tension..and hy do u say tht at this point my husband wil listen?is it because we r stil thinking abt it.?or wat else is yr idea?
can´ t i put it forward to him in another polished way?
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