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My husband' s cousins constantly in my absence keep telling him how should have served his parents more and more when they were alive. (The point here is my and myself did our best for our in-laws). In short we went out of our way to keep them cozy. Now after their death, these cousins (who in their own life are bad mother in laws/sister in laws) keep nagging my husband whenever we visit them. This cousin’s own sister-in-laws /daughter in laws maintain a long distance from them to safeguard themselves. My husband is too innocent to the ways of the world and keep listening to these blah-blah of his cousins (though he ignores their advises). Though my husband ignores thier advise but listens to them for hours and hours, I am affected a lot. I feel sad that these people are taking our tolerance for granted. The irony of the situation is these cousins end up praising my co-sister (who was a cunning daughter in law to my in-laws). My co sister' s husband (i.e. my husband' s brother seldom speaks to these cousins except a hi or a bye) does not get these type of sermons. These advices by my husband' s cousins are given by them generously in their own husband' s absence. I feel the reply to my problem is: a) My husband & I should maintain a healthy distance from these cousins for the sanity of our minds b) Should limit our visits to their houses. Please advice.
Sister replied. Just avoid them.Stay away before they create some misunderstandings between u as a couple.Such people r dangerous.It wil be tough in beginning but later u can deal with it. aaa replied. u r right.u shud stay away. lot of things sometimes affect our minds.but do mot affect our lives.so dont worry abt things tht affect yr mind.stop to think.if u fel it creates problem in yr life only then start to think seriously.till then dont ake al this seriously. u r lucky yr husband does not listen to them..be happy til there