Not Planning a Baby  Discussion Forum

Hi,
I am 29 yr old and have a 9 month old son.I am working in US.And now I am 2 weeks pregnant.I am unable to decide whether to abort or have a baby.My husband doesn' t work and I am a consultant and If dont have job upto 9 th month of pregnancy I will loose the insurance.Mine was c-section last time and so this time also I expect c-section.Without insurance delivery costs 20,000 dollars.Due to this issue I thought I go for abortion.But again I feel so bad and cry for killing a baby.Can anybody give suggestions what should I do.Sometimes I feel like having a baby.
Thanks
Sarayoo meera replied. if want then punish me torture me or kill me like other women in history who tried to speak their mind or did somethig against male wishes. but i encourage old practice of female infanticide as there is no place for women in this society follow or speak their own wills without facing harsh penance or being left alone. Suma replied. Hi Sarayoo,
I can understand your situation. Coz recently I too experienced the same and went for an abortion as my son is 11 months old and I started workin after a long gap. I do not know whether I am older enough to give suggestions. But one thing which I feel is that there should be atleast 3 yrs of age gap b/n the sibblings. Only then we may be able to plan their education, carrer etc. in the right way. If they are of very much the same age group there may b a situation when the parents may not be able to provide all they want. And also my doctor said that there shud b 3yrs of gap b/n the deliveries when it is a C-section as the inner Uterus system would take 3yrs to heal up completely. Though it is emotional bond in this 21st centuary we must also think practically.

This is my perception and please no offences. I wish u good luk and take a bold decision. Jhumri replied. A natural delivery is still possible after a c-section, and more so that your child is only 9 months old. Some doctors even recommend trying a natural birth now.

It' s also possible for you to work up to the 9th month, maybe they would let you have reduced duties to reduce stress?

You need to see a doctor to see what your choices re delivery are. You are only two weeks along, and still have a little while to make a choice. Maybe adoption is still a possibility, but this still won' t affect the cost of the c-section if that' s what you need. Maybe your husband could find a job within the next 6 months, allowing you to take some time off and have the baby? You need to take more time to make the decision. seema replied. hey Sarayoo,
My reply might seem impractical to you, but it is emotional. I am unable to have children, so find it extremely \" unfair\" (for want of a better word) that you wish to abort your second one.

Tho i have a step-daughter, my MIL has made her against me, so i cannot even love her. :(

If you agree, I would love to adopt your baby. But I reside in India.
If you agree, please reply to me here and i can give you my email to communicate further.

(I know things are not perfect for you to have the baby, but please re-think!)

thanks very much.
and all the best whatever you decide.
sally replied. i think you should just abort it because you can' t afford to go on.. you say you' re only 2 months pregnant just get it over with sooner than later