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Hi
This is sheetal. I also have the same story. I don;t know whether i am right or wrong. I need help of u people.
I got married 2 yrs ago in a different city. My husbands nature is bit different. Day i got maried he used to compare me with his sis-in-law SIL(bhabhi). In everything, whether cooking, dressup, anything u can think of. I was really very annoyed with his behaviour. That's the reason i don;t like his SIL. But he wants me to mix up with her but i can't because he is in her influence that's the reason i don;t like her. My husband doesn't behave well with my parents. Since my parents are in different city, so they come for a longer duration, my husband doesn't like that. Though he never said that but his beheviour, rudeness everything says the same. when his relatives comes at our place he feels very happy. His behaviour towards my relatives is very rude. My relatives gives him so much of importance that he can't get anywhere in this world. He is just after his brother & SIL. His SIL doesn;t behave well with me becasue she knows that my husband is in her control. Though his brothers family lives seperate in a different house. Still i feel insulted when my husband praises her. I am more educated & good looking than her. She is 15 yrs. older to me though she doesn't look like that. Whenever there is any function in our house he invites just his relatives he don't even bother to call my relatives. I don;t know what is the solution.
Shall i also behave with his relatives in the same way as he does?
Though this problem doesn't appear big. But my mind is occupied all the time with these thoughts.
In any case i don;t want to leave him. But what can i do to mend his ways. How can i change him. Please suggest. advice replied. Hi Sheetal,
Every husband is the same when it comes with his relatives.You too don't care your SIL when she comes to your house.If he doesn't invite your people don't agree to celebrate any function.You also be rude with his relatives.Tit for tat.Then he realizes the truth.Why should a woman always be nice when he is behaving so mean??You should take this seriously and put an end to your hubby's and sil's behaviors.Otherwise you don't have peace of mind. a replied. be patient, heard this story many times. husbands being under the influence of some relative be it .. mom,sister or as in your case sil. try to get your mind of this issue ..do meditation,relax, focus on something positive you and your husband share. be absolutely frank with your husband and let him know what you really think. sometimes it just helps to talk out your mind. just try .