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Hello friends
I am married since 3 yrs. Our marriage faced lots of ups and downs and last year I went away for 5 weeks as I was on the verge of divorce. The reason was that my husband used to always listen to his mother. His mother is against me and my family so used to tell him not to visit my family and not to talk to my parents, etc. I live in the US, inlaws live 1 hour away and my parents live in India. My hubby works in the family business. After I left to India for a few weeks, my hubby came to fetch me and we agreed that I would not meet his parents for a few months, until I feel comfortable. Now a few months have passed and everything is going well with us. Today we discussed about when I should start meeting his parents again, etc and I said I'd meet them whenever I want and he was very hesitant in agreeing. But he agreed. Then I told him that for our child delivery I want my mother to come to visit for 2 months. Again he was more hesitant and I really found that very disturbing. Especially since he knows my parents are not interfering and that I need it for my comfort when I am pregnant. Again, he agreed, but was very hesitant. I am just concerned about the way he is so hesitant. Should I be concerned about this ? Each time he tells me about what he wants as far as my family is concerned, I am never hesitant, and always give. Why is it so difficult for him to give ? AGG replied. The reason a lady goes to her parents place while pregnant is so that she gets rest to the maximum...

Tell ur husband that you would like to serve ur in-laws but that u cannot do it when u r pregnant coz u would need rest at that time...tell him that ur mother would be of a great help at this time and that when ur mil will be around at that time u wouldnt be able to take rest and be comfortable while ur mil would be around in the kitchen working...tell him u wouldnt like to see ur mil working all alone while u would be resting in the bed...and that u would like to be with her when u have had the baby and would like to get suggestions from her instead on how to take care of newborn...

i think ur hubby is too emotionally attached with his parents...he is thinking with his heart...dont get emotional when u explain things to him...ask him to analyse the situations instead...
hello replied. Dont bother about his hesitancy..
You are a good wife that is why his hesitancy is making you feel uncomfortable..But be practical.Let him be hesitant or worried etc.,..But bringing your mom is going to make life easy for both you and him.He does not know this...If he brings his mom or does not bring anyone it is going to be terrible for everyone..So tell him how much helpfull it will be if your mom came here and bring her...simple no feelings emotions etc.,, just practicality.
All the best.