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hi
i got married 6years back and got 2 children. we are staying abroad here and my hus loves me somuch.
after marriage i came here and after i got good job and i am working here since 6yrs.( even after getting children i took maternity leave only for 2 months each time). We both are in good positions in work.

i leave the children with our maid.
now the problem is i want to take break from my work for some time to spent time with my kids. if i leave my job ,with one salary it is difficult to manage a family ( but not impossible ) as we are staying now with little comforts . so i am thinking in that way and continuing my job even for better future of my children .whenever i discuss about leaving job with my hus he will get irritate and says he is not bothered about my job and ask me not to think that because of me our family is comfortable ( but it is true ), at any time i want i can leave my job. i got angry for his words and we ended up with fight. i dont understand why he is not accepting that i am also working hard for well being of the family.

moreover he is the elder son of his fmly so he got all the responsibilites and his younger brother( married and with one kid ) is not at all bothered about financial matters, even their monthly expenditure we have to maintain. since we both are earning my hus is not knowing the value of money he is spending ( his brother and mother will always ask him to sent many gifts if any one are going to india from here). if i say not to send we will end up with a fight and he says he knows what to sent and what not to sent.at the end he asks me only to select the gifts. one thing is he will never object me if i sent money or gifts to parents if they are in need. he is very helping nature and even helped my father many times.

now a days i am feeling depressed as my children are falling sick more often. i wanted to leave the job and look after them. if i ask him to look better offer ( which he will definitely get if he try seriously ) so that i can leave the job. he will not try to discuss properly this matter instead he says \";u dont know how to look after the children, if u want to leave the job leave it ,dont think about my job\"; i will get angry if he says like that.

are all the men like that? they don't want to appreciate their wifes for their hard work? or else i am thinking in wrong way? please advise me.
AGG replied. I m sure ur husband realizes how helpful u r but he does not accept it...its against a man's ego to do so...u said ur children are falling sick more and more...so y dont u just leave the job...just for the sake of ur children...dont discuss about the consequences... just leave the job...maybe ur husband realizes then how difficult is it to manage with only him earning...by that time u can take good care of ur children...and if u really find it difficult financially...i m sure u can always resume back to work....by this time u would have taken care of ur children also and also get a clear idea as to whether u need to work or not...

All the Best...