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My problem I think is that I am overly sensitive. I am especially getting bothered by one friend, who initially seemed to be very down-to-earth and very easy to get along, then she started working and got a very high paying job, since then, her attitude has changed and she behaves like she is the best, she tries to compete with everthing I do and tries to show off. There are times when I get extremely bothered. I do not have any friends where I live. All my friends live far away, she is the only one who lives Comparatively close by. I have been feeling depressed lately and her attitude has not helped the cause.

I moved to the US 5 years back, but, I still feel lonely and though I have a good career, I still have not been able to make friends where I live. I was used to being surrounded by people all the time in India and suddenly I feel a void.

Sometimes I start feeling very insecure and doubting myself, I do not understand weather its me or weather its circumstances. Any advice on how to boost my self confidence, make friends and how to keep negative elements away from my life and not let small things bother me would be greatly be appreciated. Mita replied. Dear Friend,

Its definitely not easy to move to a new country and stay alone without famliy, friends and relatives.
First of all, there is nothing wrong in being sensitive. Just be sure not to take small things to heart....As far as your friend is concerned, I feel you should continue to be friends with her - since you dont have any others friends yet. Remember one thing - it might not be in your nature to 'show off' but many people are like that and your friend is one of them - so accept her the way she is. Of course, if at any point she insults you or uses you or hurts your feeling, you have the right to end your friendship with her.
I would also suggest to take an extra effort to make friends - you need not visit all friends if they live far off but you can always stay in touch thru mails, chat room or telephone. Weekend get-togethers like movies, dinner or meeting at someone's house would be great for meeting more people...
Also take up some hobby - gardening, reading, painting, cooking - anything that would keep you busy.
Most important of all - dont ever doubt yourself - I think you are doing great!
All the best....
Mita Ram replied. I have also gone through your experience...and I felt the same way that you did.

One thing, you should keep in mind the girl that you meant would b extremely happy like never before and you would be outcasted. The best thing and find a new friend tried to spend some time with that person and move on,,dont be stuck at this point becuase if you struck at this stage you would become a fool!!!! excuse my french....I was a fool sometime and that's why im concerned...pls go head and look for other opportunities...