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Hello,

I live in US and sometime back I had a baby so

called MIL from India b'cause hubby wanted to

call his mom. I didn't know calling my mil would

change my life entirely. She used to say things in such a convincing way (about me negatively)

that my husband completely changed from a loving

and caring one to abusive, verbally and

physically. Life has become very depressed and

their is no peace at home. This is having very

bad impact on my son. I've tried to do

everything to please him but nothing works. I've

begun going to college to become independent but

he is not happy with that either. He is very

controlling type. We fight non-stop. He

criticizes me with friends and his family

constantly. We're living like strangers under

the same roof. We don't talk to each other for

months. He loves to see me depressed and sad.

Divorce is not the option for me. What should I

do? rach replied. First, always remember your in the good ole USA, which means many things, but most importantly that you have OPTIONS. Your husband needs to realise that he didn't marry his mother, if he can't take care of things at home on his own accord then hand him a bottle and change his daiper! harsha replied. Hi dear,
I do not have much advice for you.Try to win him back with more love and affection maybe.I actually need advice from you friend.Can you explain what your MIL used to do(ginving examples of few situations) that made your hubby change. This will really help me a lot as i am pregnant and my hubby wants MIL to come for delivery and i want my mom to come or no one at all but now MIL.
But since I am dependent i will have to agree with hubby.He is a good hubby and loves and understands me.His mum is a monster. So that's why i want to know what situations haooened with you that made your hubby like this.
I am very scared thinking about all this and your advice will help me prevent some problems from occuring maybe,
Thanks,
harsha