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Hi friends,

i have been staying in joint family since my marriage around 3 years back.my gmil n mil n fil have been very partial towards me.they never liked my ways n labelled me as bad dil.i m working n do household wrk too but that never matched their expectations.they wanted me to spend every waking hour either serving them or talking to them whereas i want some personal space n some off time to relax after day' s hard work.so things have not been good between us. my hubby is very caring.initailly he didnt react when ils blamed me for all their miseries but in all these years he too has started supporting me n stands up for me if ils say anething.i on my part keep minimum interaction with inlaws even though staying in the same house.
now the thing is that hubby n myself will be moving out from this house to sperately in some other part of the country due to my hubby' s job requirement.so hopefully in next few months we two will be gone leaving back gmil, mil, fil n unmarried bil. we dnt have ane kids right now.
suddenly, ils have started taking special interest in me since this decision of going away was confirmed.they have become very sweet n caring.
this is what is bothering me !
i feel they r very cunning. now that they know i will be leaving soon having a seperate house of my own (minus them). they have decided to maintain good terms with me so that they can come n visit n stay in our new hosue as n when they please.i donot want them to control our life at that new place. i donot like them n would not like them to come on extended visits.infact i hate them as they have been so biased towards me.also they have perhaps guessed that we might be thinking abt started a family. n the way things have been between us its easy to guess that i donot want them in my life anemore n can carry on alone staying seperately even after having a baby.they r aware that do not like them at all.
i find their sudden transformation very mean n selfish.
plz tell me how to handle this. i really really do not want anyone of them coming to my new house n start living with us again.
it pinches me that they never cared for my feelings n now they r acting nice for their own benefit. jane replied. You havent been doing all that they wanted a dil should. But you must be doing something. some basic things that dils do. Jaise ke touching gmils feet or serving them something in the room. When hubby is not their stop doing some of these things also. I mean,dont do something that they obviously expected and they will get angry and fight or complain. This way you can keep the relationships bitter. But be careful and do it clevelrly dont give chance in front of husband or dont do wrong that husband will say why you dont do it.