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hi,

its me again...my SIL has left now and im so releived i cant tell u..though my MIL is a little upset which is obvious.
anyways this time i ignored her as much as i can by going to office and when back doing little work at home...but you know after few days she had the audacity to tell me that im ignoring her and i only speak to her when hubby is around.i didnt know what to say but i said something which didnt spoil her mood.i know i was ignoring her,but what else can i do,she is elder to me so i dont want to disrespect her.

after that when things settled a little she started bugging me by passing taunting remarks and pulling my hubby leg by cracking silly jokes.i mean she behaves very weirdly sometimes.i dont understand y cant she be polite and soft to me.i have not done anything to her but still she is jealous.
my hubby knows that her sister is rude and less of warmth but then he keeps quite.i cant critise his family all the time....i dont know how to explain him.
i thought a lot so im telling..i thought maybe she thinks im younger to her and enjoying life which she is not able to with 2 daughters or maybe she thinks my hubby loves me too much and so its difficult to share brother love or maybe she feels that everyone appreaciates me unnnecessarily.
see my hubby is only son so my in laws are very loving and possesive about him.so they like me too(i think so).whoever he would have married my SIL would have been jealous of her.thats her nature.she wants to be the best.
i have to live with this fact throughout my life that i have a cunning and mean SIL.I cannot spoil my relation with her because she is the only close relative of my hubby after his parents.but after 2 years of marriage i cannot stand her.how will i take this throughout life.i dont have children right now.
she still feels im a outsider.she wanted that i talk to her and whatever i talk she cuts me.she thinks im a fool or what that whatecver i do or say has no meaning.im sure she thinks im not mature and responsible which my MIL dosent think now.my MIL always appreciates when i look nice or i cook well or if anything i do good...though very rearly but she does in front of people.then i feel nice.see girls every girl after marriage after marriage wants love affection and acceptance in ner house but when we DIL dont get it inspite of trying are best its very frustating.my gratest tension as of now is my SIL,she is soo wicked and has dominating position in my house also that im scared she might poison my In laws as well as hubby in jealousy.im trying for a baby and want it soon but not getting successful.please girls help me in handling her.i just cant stand her any more.this is my marriage and i dont wqant to spoil it because of her. simi replied. plzzzzzzzz help me

Few days back my sisin-law arrived our home with his husband. she is a village woman, not educated. But whenever she comes always stay here fasting 2 aur 3 days, itz pakka sort of thing. this time she asked me to give two lemon and put those on shivji, and done her pooja and fasted that day.
when they gone from our home, me and my husband had fierce fight over petty matters which i never had imagined, and that lasted for 15 days. It has never happend in our life b4.

Is she done something wrong over our home? gg replied. thanks raj for ur reply.yes i think i worry to much on small things...what to do its my nature now.im young to everyone in family,still i worry.Basically i dont understand what goes wrong that people sometimes start critising me...i mean everyone has some weakness or the other but that dosent mean that u linger on to it.anyways take care thanks again
raj replied. Congrats for having handled all this visit quite well. you dont worry about sil poisioning others' mind,they know her much better than yu or I may know her,so they know how to take her actions and words.If your mil has been nice to for so long,and inspite of your sil' s previous visits,then she will surely remain that way.Planning for a baby is so nice and exciting,so focus on that.Keep positive thoughts,tell yourself you have a nice family,all are sweet to you,thank god for this lovely family daily and go ahead with your duties with a vwery very positive frame of mind.This will bring it' s own good rewards,actions we do in love and faith and bound to turn out better for all and everyone will notice your good cheer and happiness and become that way too!!
As for trying to conceive,MY gynac told me most fertile time is 12-15 days before your next expected date of period.AQgain keeping positive,happy and having so much fun with your spouse is the key to success.Some ayurvedic docs recommend alternate days sex during fertile phase idea being to ensure healthy sperm,also only if you have already tried for a year without success you need to both see a doc.Until then it' s happy bonding time to both of you,all the best.
Raj.