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I am a regular reader on this site and I like your replies. Where have you gathered such a good experience from? In todays world where we see parent in laws not behaving good to dauter in laws and viceversa also I always find you trying to go positive. Anyways what I want to ask is why dont you reply in womans issue bord? I have posted couple of my problems there in recent past with different names and I expected your reply but you did not reply me and I found out that you never reply there. Why so its womens problem there and here as well. My problem is my sil who is married but stays in same city. She has been a problem from start but these days is troubling me more by comments, actions nd filling my mil ears. She has problems with her husband also. I am doing good with mil and hubby is also very good. But when she visits all happiness gone. Please help me i want to teach a lesson to that lady. Saniya replied. you guys have given me good ideas. I will talk to my mil. This also gives me relief that i was worrying too much about my sil. Thank u so much.
Raj is a M or F? raj replied. I take liberty of replying although you asked Saheli to respond.I agree with you that Saheli' s advice is always positive and inspiring,good work saheli,keep it up,some time i too may need your help!SIL prblems are galore,dont know if they will ever end,I have 2 SILs the eldertreats me lkie her daughter and the younger thinks i am her enemy!!Cant help it.
If your sil is specially nasty to you,Im sure your hubby and mil too would have noticed.Try telling your mil first that you feel hurt by nasty tone of voice,her reudeness etc,mil may speak to her daughter,next step cd ne your hubby and last fo all sil herself as saheli says.Try it out and let us know what happens.
Raj Saheli replied. Thanks Saniya.
I dont reply in Women' s Issue board because the audience there is vast. It has men posting and replying, then the range of topics is wide - can be anything from boyfriends, to physical problems, extra marital affairs, etc. I dont think it will help me reading those variety of problems. Also, I have limited time so I visit that board very rarely. I am generally visiting these relationship boards, preschoolers, baby or may be food/cooking at times.

What is your mil' s and hubby' s opinion abot SIL issue? If they are with you, you can talk to hubby to talk to sis, if not then talk to your MIL to help you out. Keep talking to SIL as last option because if you talk to her she would make a big issue out of it and I dont want you to take any chances to be responsible to spoil relationsip between a family members. So if nothing else works out, talk to SIL openly and coolly. Ask her if there is anything from ur side that' s worrying her and if there is anyway you can help out. Tell her that her behavoir disturbs you, and you really want to have a healthy relationship with her.
I think even if she doesnt support you, this should be a message enough to indicate her \" dont mess with me\" .

But overall, SIL' s comments, her actions when she visits once a while ..... I think some of us take them too seriously. Some issues will be there in life and assume that this is one of it. Take a step back, look at life as whole and ask yourself - is this issue really worth worrying so much? Is it really affecting my life so much? If not, you have your answer.

Hope this helps.