Name: raj
Subject: 
why were you in hospital
Hi dear,
Thanx for updating.
Why were you admitted twice?Also i feel that the stress of adjusting to a new family plus a new community is telling on you.What ever allergy you may have in the kitchen,can it not be cured with medicines?MAybe you could try allopathy or ayurveda or even homeopathy?When you have kids of your own,they may need something to eat and you may need to cook something at least once in a while,so how will you manage that?
It´ s true that when you have a babay of your own,you will get more closer as you and hubby will feel a sense of togetherness because of the baby,but then you neeed to be very strong to be able to carry thru a pregnancy in a not so freindly atmosphere at your inlaws´ place.Plus since your huuby and you dont seem to be able to communicate too much with each other,dont plan for babay or anything else in which he may not be too sure or interested,tyaht will only drive you furter apart,have patience.
Killing yourself does not change anything,think of the pain you may give your family by that,just take the thought out of your head,OK?
Try to make your inlaws people happy,by doing things they hold imporatnt and dear to their heart.Even if they dont appreciate you,they will see your efforts and will slowly change behaviour towards you.Dont go oveerrboard and kill yourself,but do try to talk pleasantly,smile sweetly and try to lighten the mood with jokes,humour,dont take insults personally,leave it as though somebody who is mentally ill may do.
Since you work outside,try to finish some contribution of house work before you go,make effort to make yourself part of the family,
When you need to talk about your hurt to your hubby,tell it without tears or tantrums or masala.Just state thae facts and tell him you are feeling very upset and deeply hurt.Tell him you expect him to support you mentally,this may be funny,but most men dont even know what tyheir wives want in terms of emotional support.Keep talking keep communication open betweent he two of you,go to your parents´ place for break once ina while,have you tried al this out?
If so Id need to more specific problems that you face and what you have tried to solve it,only then can anybody on this board help you.
Raj
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