I have a MIL & SIL ( Who is not maaried) age 37, who always try to be MIL, because of whom I am always in depression and am lossing weight.
I had a love maariage , he is rajput and I am a brahman. from there talks earlier I came to know that they dont like that I am brahman. then as I am working , they used to compare me others DIL to prepare food.
When I husband is not there they always nag and use all form of stuffs ( khoon ke aasoo roe, manhoos hoon main), because of this I really get frustrated and always burst out on husband, He always says that I am wrong they are right.
I have always maintained distance... but they r like dont have aeticates also... they will knck our room anytime (11:30 pm ---) my husband medicined are with my MIL he will knock in night... I really feel sometimes frustrated as for whom I have left my family he is always his families. I have been admitted twice.. then also nothing has changed.... I feel to suicide,.... Ihave started taking overdose of medicines then also I am alive....please help
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I have a MIL & SIL ( Who is not maaried) age 37, who always try to be MIL, because of whom I am always in depression and am lossing weight.
I had a love maariage , he is rajput and I am a brahman. from there talks earlier I came to know that they dont like that I am brahman. then as I am working , they used to compare me others DIL to prepare food.
When I husband is not there they always nag and use all form of stuffs ( khoon ke aasoo roe, manhoos hoon main), because of this I really get frustrated and always burst out on husband, He always says that I am wrong they are right.
I have always maintained distance... but they r like dont have aeticates also... they will knck our room anytime (11:30 pm ---) my husband medicined are with my MIL he will knock in night... I really feel sometimes frustrated as for whom I have left my family he is always his families. I have been admitted twice.. then also nothing has changed.... I feel to suicide,.... Ihave started taking overdose of medicines then also I am alive....please help
marsha replied. hey ss i have a vry good advises for you but i am sorry i cant write to you today coz gotta go now hav exam today.....till then takecare and just want to tell you dont ruin your life for those silly people...about husbands...its not there fault....dont worry........be happy....listen to good romantic songs...or read a book or go out with friends. enjoy life...dont have to let your inlaws know you are enjoying outside...just get rid if this depression..
takecare again..........bye c u soon.
raj replied. Take a break,believe in yourself,else you will be in trouble.Nobody is worth dying for,keep on to your life,see a doc urgently if you feel like committing suicide,most women go thru this phase sometime in their life.
Ãt' s true your was a love marriage but dont expect ypour hubby to stand up for you,they rerely do.Find a job for yourself outside home,get some hobbies,keepcalm within,pray everyday and soon you will find things changing.
You need to first earn your hubby' s trust,then your mil' s.After this si done,your sil cant do much,Be BRAVE.
Post messages whenever you feel low,so that all of us can help you out,all the best.
Remember,nothing is permanat in life,this too shall pass.
Raj
helppriya replied. I understand your problem and I know it is hard to accept but do not end your life for someone who does not understand u. Husbands seldom talk for their wives. Dont expect this from him. He like most husband s will never confront his family for you. I wish u all the best! Try to think positive and have faith!
2007-06-22
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Name: marsha Subject: we all are with you
hey ss i have a vry good advises for you but i am sorry i cant write to you today coz gotta go now hav exam today.....till then takecare and just want to tell you dont ruin your life for those silly people...about husbands...its not there fault....dont worry........be happy....listen to good romantic songs...or read a book or go out with friends. enjoy life...dont have to let your inlaws know you are enjoying outside...just get rid if this depression..
takecare again..........bye c u soon.
2007-06-29
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Name: marsha Subject: m back
hi..there...sorry for taking so long time for getting back to you. by the way first of al i would suggest to speak up and ask for your husbands medicine. just say mom, i am the wife and i will takecare of him. Say it in a very polite way. even if u dont feel like to do so. and one more thing never ever cry in front of them. Just act happy. and if you feel like crying go into bathroom or toilet where no one can see you. dont even cry or burst out on your hubby...u wont get even a drop out of it. The best thing is to be calm with your hubby. Dont make a habbit of complaining your husband whatever happens in the house. Ignore your MIL or SIL. I know there words hurts. But dear you have to act to be good in front of your husband. And make him realise you dont care what people are saying. And leave everything on him and god. Tell your hubby god is watching whatever is happing here.
Look just be wise yourself....they will never ever change. If they say anything just dont look at them....ignore,....or walk out from there....try these things out....and u ll find happiness....by doing this your hubby would speak for you one day....if u change yourself being pateint.
sorry gotto go now........dont have enough time left..........c ya later....
2007-06-08
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Name: raj Subject: BE BRAVE
Take a break,believe in yourself,else you will be in trouble.Nobody is worth dying for,keep on to your life,see a doc urgently if you feel like committing suicide,most women go thru this phase sometime in their life.
Ãt' s true your was a love marriage but dont expect ypour hubby to stand up for you,they rerely do.Find a job for yourself outside home,get some hobbies,keepcalm within,pray everyday and soon you will find things changing.
You need to first earn your hubby' s trust,then your mil' s.After this si done,your sil cant do much,Be BRAVE.
Post messages whenever you feel low,so that all of us can help you out,all the best.
Remember,nothing is permanat in life,this too shall pass.
Raj
2007-06-08
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Name: helppriya Subject: Dont get frustrated!
I understand your problem and I know it is hard to accept but do not end your life for someone who does not understand u. Husbands seldom talk for their wives. Dont expect this from him. He like most husband s will never confront his family for you. I wish u all the best! Try to think positive and have faith!
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