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Hi,
After 7 months of our marriage,we are devoid of intercourse.Initially i had fear of intercourse pain.My husband helped to overcome it,but we couldn' t able to do it.Now my husband dont have any interst in sex.I insist him many times but he runs from it.I am very frustated.Please help me.Thanks for your support. Gitika replied. Hi there according to me its fine that your husband is irritated may be he must be having some other reasons try to find it out, in the mean time do not loose the hope and keep on trying till you succeed in your mission. Geetu replied. Hi there i think its just 7 months to your marriage and its getting worse for you because your husband is having an affair out side because you are not giving the love he wants, please be aware on this as its very dangerous. Geeta replied. Hi dear if you want you can do one thing just speak to your friends and ask them how you guys plan for good moments and take some good ideas and then plan it accordingly so that even your husband will like such surprises. Garima replied. Hi there this is not right you are wasting the time, speak to your husband up front as its seems he is not interested in you any more and you are just wasting the time in waiting for him. Please act on it immediately. Ankita replied. Dear please do not panic and just think different ways to seduce your husband as i am sure he will come to you if he really loves you, please plan something unique and different so that you both can enjoy the moment. Anushree replied. Hi there this is really bad thing to happen, i think your husband is having a extra marital affair please do keep a good watch on him as he is not getting what you should give him so he is moving out to find the desired love. Anu replied. Ciya dear this is very common issue so please do not worry according to me you guys should plan a vacation and go out somewhere and just be together, by this you can be more close to your husband and it will be good for you both. Aditi replied. Hi Ciya please do not panic dear this is nothing to worry at all may be your husband was not interested at that moment but trust me he will come back to you, please ensure you dont loose the hope and keep on trying. Anita replied. Hi there please do not worry as it happens may be your husband might be frustrated with this is as its been so many years now, try to figure it out and get the problem resolved by yourself as its only you who can do this. Anaida replied. Hi dear this is very common factor with womens who are married and are afraid of having sex, please speak to your husband and explain him that now you are not the one who was earlier and can perform the way he wants. All the best dear. Archana replied. try to contact some donationcentre if that is the case with you . You need the most as of now.. i hope you know its your life and you can do it the way you want . So all the best and please take care. seduce him or do what ever is possible or else donation centre is the best . you need it the most as of now. royal jaat replied. i want to donate my own real sperm to a besutiful lady. who really need it. i am a Jaat boy of Haryana, good looking height 5-8, body weight 75 physical fit like miletry man u can contact me at :zero tripple nine, two,zero, eight, four, dobble two, three Sania replied. Hi..I' m facing the same problem as you after marriage..husband not interested in marital life nor baby..this December almost 3 yrs over..wat can I do..I' m very much frustrated n depressed.. Khushi replied. Hi Ciya,

Men generally lose interest soon if you are monotonous in your approach. Have you put on too much weight? We need not all be zero-size, but it might help if you just get fit. I had the same problem,too. And let me give you a suggestion. Get yourself some classy lingerie and put on a little show for him! Also, there is the chance that he is just scared of hurting you. So, let him know what you want and how you want it and go get him! :) Shona replied. Hi Ciya,

You can consult Sexologist for this problem. Sex is very important between husband and wife so dont be scared and learn to enjoy it. ciya replied. dear Sanya

we both can understand each others pain. has ur problem solved now? ciya replied. hi Peter

i have sent you many offline messages at your yahoo-id but didnt get any reply.I wanted your advice urgently.
Please help me.

Thanks
ciya ciya sharma replied. Pete i want to take some advice from u online.please tell me your chat-id in yahoo or....
pls tell me asap.ciya Pete replied. Hi Ciya,

How are you and how are things going on now. Hope you have not given up. If you have, then take this message as booster dose and start over. Dont be deppress, keep going.

Take Care

Pete Pete replied. Hi Ciya,

What has happend in the past is past. I am talking about the fight you had with hubby. Well couples have fights and they get back, this is common and natural. So dont feel guilty about it. What you are going through gives you enough reason to fight. Now since all these are not giving you results, I would suggest you to take some time out and spend more time thinking about you and get into some activities that interest you most.

You can continue with your dressing at home. Ignore him totally and dont keeping hurting yourself thinking about it. Give some time to it and in the mean time get involved in something u like. If you are working, try picking up new subjects. If you are a home maker, try out readin books, new recipies, may be pick up music leasson. Again all based on your time avaialability.

So relax first. Been frustrated and angry spoils your mind and body. When you dont get anything in return being in that state, its better not to be in that state.

Its easy for me or others to give you suggestion. But only YOU and YOU can change your life. I am sure you can and you will be happy.

Cheer!

Pete