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Hi All,

Please help - how can I sort out this problem???

Everytime my husband and I have a disagreement, my MIL jumps it, takes advantage of the situation and stirs things and makes me and my husband fight more???

Ritika replied. Try to keep yr disagreements inside closed doors.

Do NOT fight in front of her. That is the worst thing you can do. Knowing how she is going to make more trouble between your husband and you, try to keep all yr disagreements away from her.

Make a pact with yr husband that if there is anything that you both disagree about, you will only do it in privacy. Tell him that every couple has disagreements and it is upto them to resolve it..that' s how a relationship grows and matures...if his mom also overhears everything, she will also feel bad and you dont want to to drag her into something that just pertains to the two of you.

If your husband still persists in fighting you in front of her (coz he feels better having his mother' s support)...try to ignore him..just say, \" lets talk about it later\" ...and then keep shut..discuss the issue later when you are alone with him...

Its very difficult I know, but you need to look for the trigger where your MIL jumps in and eliminate that... sh replied. hellooooooo,,..well that is what ' mother in law' s are there for!!.
It is news only if they do NOT do this things. in fact your question is similar to you asking ' why is karela bitter?' ..
Fight it.Since you know that she does it, try to be more smarter than her. Jump in before her ' on her' ..Goodluck