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hi,

well i have a strange problem which is giving me tension now.
To start with my SIL comes to our place once a year in summer.But when she comes my life becomes hell.I always hope when she will come we will have a good time,plan to go out to some place,etc.But she is a very jealous female from wht i have observed in 2 years of my marriage.My in laws give all love a care to her when she comes which is obvious,they are her parents,but somehow i feel she is more interested in whats happening in my and my hubby life.She keeps on asking my MIL how am i managing house,my behaviour towards my MIL.always curious to know about me and my hubby relationships rather than coming to relax and spend time with her parents in vacations,by the time she leaves she spoils the peace of the house.she constantly keeps nagging on something or the other to my MIL which spoils my MIL mood.i mean she is jealous at times when my MIL and me have peaceful relation.i dont know y???my MIL is nice.her daughter is one girl.she is so smart,whatever happens between me and hubby she tells her mom,whether she has seen me kissing my hubby or fighting on some point with him.she tells her mom everything.even if we shut our doors while we r doing some work in room she keeps on banging until we dont open.i mean all our privacy is lost.my hubby gives full attention to his sister and niece when they come,i dont mind tht but atleast my SIL should stay away from our personnel matter.niece is small i understand but not her mom.
now they are coming in summers.tell me guys what should i do?how to handle?im very tense.cannot share this with HUBBY,MIL and FIL. SN replied. Try talking to your husband about this and also try not being in the house most of the time when she is there.
If you are working, it is great, if not try going to your parents house for a break. Staying away is the only way out.

Ireally feel for you. I am going through something similar but worse. hh replied. Hi gg,

I also facing the same prob... my SIL is also completly jealous of me... from the day one she was filing my hubby' s ears aagianst me and in front of me she was pretending to be soooooo swt... u won' t belie... on back she use to call me \" woh aurat\" and on my face she was so swt alwys \" bhabhi-2\" ....
she can' t tolrate if i sit next to my hubby and became complete jealous if we laugh and enjoy each others company....

In begining i tried to ignore her .. thought its her childish behaviour (even she is married)....THAN we had few confontration as she has some kind of \" ME RIGHT\" problem.... than fights become big day by day....
now we are now more on talking terms.... i simply told her \" U don' t exits at all for me\"
actually she also resides out of delhi BUT comes after every 2-3 months and doesn' t go back before 20-25 day!!.. Those 20-25 days are such horrible days for me na i can' t tell u... and in ur case ur SIL comes only once in a year...
so my suggestion is now u know her nature and top of it we can' t change anyones nature so pls... try to maintain some distance with her... show that u are busy in your room .... arranging almirah (if you are working than prob is sloved whle in off and whatever tm u spent in eve... try to maintaina distance )

I am telling you distance is the main remidy of all prob in in laws house... this is what everyone has suggested me alos (see my post of \" changed MIL \" in Roles of in laws \" section

Don' t be rude to her... just show u are busy... and waisay bhi she has for vacation .. u are not on vacation... so u busy in ghar ka kaam and all
don' t initiate in making palns to go out.... if your hubby makes any plans than happily join them but there too don' t give zada bhav to your SIL...

the more you get frdly with her she will become jaelous.... there is no way to change SIL/MIL insecure/jealous feeling only maintain distance..

chaloo bye

do tell me what happened this tm when see came...
HH