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I know many of us are facing the problems from our inlaws.why i have a problem is because my child has got affected due to them.There was a constant comparision between my 9 year old son and my sisterinlaws 9 1/2 yr old son who is a big bully also from his size.I have completely kept my sufferings to one side.what bothers me is that my child is lonely because this bully doesnt allow other kids in the colony to play with my son.The alternative my son has found is computer games,gameboy etc.I take him thrice a week for cricket in a school thats because i want some kind of activity for him but some where i feel he is lonely,he doesnt talk much also is very shy,would try to avoid coming in the front,eventhough academically he is fine.I cannot think of having another child for his company because of some medical problems and i do not keep too well thanks to the stresses given to me by my inlaws.i cannot run around with him.How do i engage him in some purposeful activity where he would no longer be dependent on any company,how would he make friends in school or where he goes to play cricket.How can i make him happy and a normal child,How can i protect my child from the negative vibes of my inlaws.I cannot move out of the place where we are residing,i dont know what to do,i feel completely drained out.I also feel that sometimes my child hides things form me or would give a false story about some incident in the school.Iam worried that he should not develop any bad habits.Any suggestions please help.....Though i have not mentioned the details of my inlaws behaviour but it is true that they leave no opportunity to create problems in my life,which they have achieeved but i want by son to be saved from them HH replied. Hi Manpreet,

I think u should send ur kid to variour activity classes...... Cricket is not only game yaar..
you can try this...
1) scakting
2) painting
3) judo
4) learing some muscical instrumenst
5) swimming

there he will make new frds and moreover he will feel confident... try to bost his confidance say.... and when he will picking up few things that automatically he will feel confidant and willnot be scaredto faced ur SIL son... bec he himself feels bit superior than gali kay chokray.... don' t let ur child be victim of that badmash kid groupism...
hope this is of help to u...
HH understand replied. From what you have written your child' s withdrawn behaviour seems to come from fear of all the people you have mentioned. This fear could have real basis or it could be a reflection of your fear of your inlaws. If not for your sake at least for the sake of your child you must be more empowered and not tolerate wrong behaviour. If you are frightened your child will also be frightened. In order to be brave your child must feel that his parents are able to stand up for him and protect him from people who mean badly. How will you stand up for and protect your child if you cant do so for yourself? You must be strong to make your child more confident.