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Dear all, i have been living in joint family since four years and have never enjoyed this setup.due to some job related need,my hubby n myself will be moving out of town to stay seperately from inlaws.i m jumping with joy at this opporunity but knowing my in-laws, i fear that they will not stop interferring in our life even though we will be living 4 hours away from them.i m afraid that they will come to stay with us for long durations and make my life uncomortable.i never had good relationship with them.its like i donot like them and they donot like me.but they are good to my husband.i donot wish to have interaction with them coz they have been demanding,partial and bad towards me.please advice on how should i handle inlaws and their future visits.i fear they will suffocate me with their interferance,phone calls n visits.though i m not expecting but i know when we start a family they will prefer living with us even though they have said n done hurtful things to me.( i do not wish to live with them in the same house ever !) .my hubby supports me and love me.but i guess if this job opporunity hadnot come our way then he would not have moved out of the family house coz he loves his parents and wants us to be all together. mitu replied. seems like this person ' kalci' is a shrewd MIL herself or he is a dumb husband ! mitu replied. seems like this person ' kalci' is a shrewd MIL herself or he is a dumb husband ! kalci replied. why you are so shrewd with your in laws
just think of your future, when your child gets married and what if he wants to live separate life.Who will take your care? kalci replied. why you are so shrewd with your in laws
just think of your future, when your child gets married and what if he wants to live separate life.Who will take your care? abc replied. Dont worry , I agree with Dia.Its going to be your home and your husbands. Also call your parents to visit too, you will enjoy their company more. Your inlaws may not visit so often as you think. They have their own house to take care of. Even if your husband talks to them on the phone, you need not talk always. Maintain your distance and be firm with them from day one in your new house.After a few months, your husband will aslo start enjoying the freedom and independence. So enjoy the new beginning. dia replied. Hi Mehak,
Congrats that u r entering a dream world of urs! At this moment dont spoil ur mood while thinking all these negative things.
Suggest ur mind this way ...U' ve tolerated them for 24 hrs a day, 7days a week and 30 days a month. Ok,now u r escaping this hell ,If u r gonna have their visits, those visits will be very short compared to living with thm under one roof, right? then y do u worry?

They might not visit you or visit frequently(generally inlaws like their son to come to them but not prefer coming to sons place).Because in ur home u' ll be queen and will have mental strength because its ur home and they' ll be guests . So they ought to behave ok . If they interfere toomuch just stop talking to them .It just hurt their ego.,they' ll hate visiting ur home .

Dont bother about simple things when u have ur hubby' s support .These all r minude things comparing to a womans problems without her own hubby' s support.So cheer up and think positively!!

HAve a nice time!