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Hi Everybody, I m new to this site.After reading your posts i m prompted to write my situation. I have been married since 3 yrs into a joint family.it was a love marriage with no objections from either side of parents.my ils have 2 sons ,my hubby is the elder one, ils are well educated and well off.my mil had vowed infront of all her relative before my marriage that she will treat her dil as her very own daughter as God didnot gave her a girl.she bragged how much she will care n love her dil when she will have one.but when i arrived on scene she acted like a typical mil-controlling,pushy n interferring,but that another story ! The story i m sharing is of my gmil i.e. my hubby' s grand mother.this lady is 70+ very active for her age n she has a sharp tounge.If u believe that age and white hair make a person wise n intellgent, go n check her out ! she is the most wicked,greedy n immoral person i have seen in my life.i know we should not say bad things abt elders but this is the truth,cannt be helped.gmil has tortured mil in her days a lot but fil feels indebted to gmil coz gmil has raised him all alone when gmil' s husband died at young age.so, in this family, gmil has been allowed to behave freely,insult anybody, lie and get away at it shamelessly.gmil started her usual tactics with me too.she would criticize my cooking, dressing,even bathing !! she would always make me seem bad infront of everybody and she was so greedy for my salary as i managed my money myself.i would cry a lot,have swollen eyes,got stress out,had dark circles and felt my life has become hell after marriage coz of inlaws.i wished to escape from that house somehow.though my hubby is very caring n now stoods up for me but initially he too ignored what was going on in the house as he could not belive that his God like parents could be wrong to me ! after accusing me for petty things she would stop talking to me n ultimately i ll initate a conversation with her.gmil' s verbal torture continued for almost 2 years.then one day she again started calling me lazy for sleeping for 2 hours in the afternoon on sunday which is my day off from work,she accused me of keeping my money.this time i decided to give all back to her .i leashed on her in the presence of my hubby and fil.i told her how mean n greedy she is.i told her how much i contribute to the family money wise n housework wise .i said she has the luxury of sleeping for long hours everyday n can deceide for herself who is lazy.then i stopped talking to her altogether.i continued interacting with everybody except her.for me she stopped existing.she was shocked as it became more than 10 days n i made no effort to mend things.she complained to mil,i told mil that gmil needs to strighten up n cannt continue bad behaviour with me anymore.then one day gmil came to me , hugged me and started a conversation.she has controlled her tounge since then.i no more feel intimidated by ils since then.i feel happy n strong n free ! seeing this, mil too has softened up.
hubby feels good too as i m handling my problems myself rather than complaining to him all the time about ils.get up n go, u may get labelled as bad dil for speaking up but atleast u will liberated n strong.
preet replied. What if your husband also doesnot support you? VirginiaGal replied. Amazing story. What a legend to be passed down and repeated to others. You area brave girl. I would have done the same thing. Sometimes we just have to treat them back with the same medicine. It feels so good to pinch back the same way and see it hurt them the way they did it to us countless times.
n replied. hi preet,
it felt so good to read your story. I hope every body with such difficulties stand up like you.you truely are an inspiration.