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hi, my daughter is 1 1/2 year old now. she started going to the nursery. i still breast feed her. my problem is her tanturms. when she wants something i dont give it to her immediately she throws a big tanturm. she crys aloud, rolls on the groud and bangs a head. sometimes without any reason she also does this. i get so worried at that time. and i dont know how to stop it. she wont let me carry her also. why is she behaving like this. it worries me. how do i control her. even eating is a problem with her. she just wont eat her food. please help me. i am really depressed. i feel like a bad parent not being able to control my daughter. actually she started this when she started going to the nursery. should i stop her from going to the nursery. its just half a day. please advise me where i am going wrong. soni replied. she know how to get attention its not like you are not giving but she know when she does this thing you give up .If you stick to what you ask.And i think you give up fast and run to her and go her way .But instead you should ask your daughter in very clear and short language and if she bangs her head don't change and come to resque she know you very will they fill hurt too she will cry and for sometime but when there is no buy from you soon she will know your way I have gone through this and this works mom replied. hi natlaia,
being a mother to very strong willed daughter,i learned that they wants to be incharge of ourself,and can get what she wants to get act like that way. but i read some books about that issue, and came to that conclusion that they have myway or hyway attitude,so if she crys let her for a while,as long as she is not hurting heaself and throwing stuff.eventuly she will calm down.do not give in,you can hug her afterwards. she is learning independece.
do not depressed about it.it is phase and it will pass,important thing is let her know who is the boss?i do not think that it is happning because of the school,i think you have one strong willed kid too.that i experienced over the years.i hope it helps.
thankx