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Hi All You women ,

been married for 4 yrs now , with a beautiful daughter . mine is an Luv Marriage very much against the opposition of my MIL .
my husband somehow convinced her and here we are .
my husband a very understanding and luving guy . no issues with him , he is an ideal hubby .
the problem is my MIL .
from the firts mnth of the marriage she has been very abusive at times towards my parents , behind the back .
she brain washed my husband against them , my FIL against them .
my hubby who didnt want quarrels gave in to her/didnt bother to clarify things and went her way only on things concerned with my parents .
i tolerated all this ( with minor squabbles for 4 yrs ) .
this mnth she made a very dirty accusation against me to the pt of calling accusing me against trying to get my parents at our place ( we own a 3 bhk house , i work , get paid very well , they have moved to our house ) and removing them from my house . also she said things like get lost and all .
now why shud i listen to this , i gave it all back this time keeping nothing with me . This created a huge ruccus at my place , my FIL along with my hubby backed me up this time , no doubtedly they fought for me . to the extent that she wanted to leave house .
now i have come to the conclusion that in order for me to actually enjoy with my hubby and daughter i mist live seperately .
mind u she is very loving towards my daughter , to the extent that sometimes when my daughter is crying she leaves me and goes to her .
when it comes to her relatives she is gud to them no matter whether they are gd or not and she expects the same from me .
but now i think whether i have done the right thing by givin it back to her , after all she insulted my parents and called me a baad \" jaat \" .
is this right , shhud i pressurise my hubby to stay seperately ?

Pls pls advice reene replied. I have been going through the same thing for 9 years now. However, I get it from both the fil and mil. If they are upset with me, they will not talk to anyone from my family and simply ignore them. I have wanted to move out for so long but my husband is very stubborn. They are so nice to me in front of him that he thinks I am lying when I complain that they don' t treat me right. I say stop feeling guilty and start living for your husband and your child. I am thinking of leaving my husband because I have lost all patience. I know it will be hard on my 2 girls but living like this has made me into such an angry person that I don' t like myself anymore.