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i am regular reader of this board so thought of sharing my experiance also.i have good inlaws,loving n caring but the problem is SIL.she is elder to my hubby and very dominating in nature.she is married ut is always thinking or asking my MIL as what is happening in my HUBBY and MY life.sometimes my MIL tells her day to day report.Once i hide some thing from her or u may say that i forgot to tell her.she saw that thing in my room and felt bad that i didnt tell her.She told this to my SIL.my SIL blasted my hubby telling him that you leave the house if you are hiding things and some rubbish she said.my hubby felt bad and asked my MIL that y do u tell small things of our house to SIL.well my MIL didnt expected that SIL will do such a thing so she scolded her.....not in front of me.i apologized to my MIL but from that day i dont feel like talking to her.
Look the prob is she is too interfering in our lives.We are four people,whatever happens we will discuss amongst ourselves,why does she need to tell us what we have to do and what not.My MIL is nice its just that she is emotional.she didnt mean to hurt my hubby but then SIL should use her brains.y did she scold my hubby on no big issue.whatever my hubby does for me its our life.there are certain things which i dont want to shre with MIL.basically both of them are insecure abt something which i dont know.i have lost all respect for my MIL as well as for my SIL.SIL is a big nut.she has spoiled her life as well as my inlaws life.i dont know how to tackle her.she should mind her own house and even brainwashing my MIL against me.what should i do. trouble replied. thanks for your replies.
well i have tried indirectly telling lot of things to my SIL politely,but it seems she dosent get a hint.she is too dominating and arrogant at times and she really dosent care what she says. My MIL knows her nature,she tells me also. even before my marriage she used to behave very badly with my MIL,thats what my hubby says.She even answer back to my FIL.when she dosent bother about her own parents..then who am i.Not that she has been bad to me very much because she stays outstation so i have not interacted much with her.,but whatever little bit i have she seems always angry on something or the other....i dont know y.
My husband says ignore her as she has gone in other house....just be good to mummy and daddy.they love me i know that...but you see daughter is daughter.even if she is like that they cant say much to her and feel always for her since she has got married.
i just focus on my relation with hubby.to hell with her...but ya if she tries to poison my hubby she will have it from me as well as my hubby..i think i need to get bold now to handle family matters.

thanks anyways. fd replied. i think u talk it out with ur MIL with the support of ur husband . As u say ur mil is carring and good, she will understand and she knows from the earlier issue that ur SIl can spoil the peace in the house. so best is tackle ur mil. dia replied. I dont think its a ultimate solution but it would definitely work to some extent!
See , ur SIL talking to u about some or other things and then u start complaining about ur friend (Assume ur friend is a SIL to her bhabhi and doing similar way ur SIL does) .Now u tell her mentality and wonder how that nice friend is being worst as a SIL.Finally u can tell all the suggestions u want to tell to ur SIL .just u can conclude ,' but I denied her behaviour, and suggested not to interfere in bhabhi' s life.She followed my words and now her bhabhi is respecting my this friend.' ...

U can weave any stories, dear!
Its really easy.So that she' ll defiitely catch the bottom of line. If she is gonna create a scene by complaining u r indirectly scolding her...JUST BE READY TO FACE HER !Be BOLD!Hope u got me!