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Hi Saheli,
Just now I read ur previous post that u composed loong back! Its really good ! Also nice to read...But when I thought in reality, Her(Any MIL) side is totally true and no normal human is wrong But the relationship btwn persons is little confusing!

I understood the reason u said in saying not to reply .Of course this is truly unwanted reply for you...but just cant stop myself sharing feelings ...
See if u were in her daughters position u must have hated her DIL (unfortunately ...now it' s yoU) .Because what she tell about you is pitious to her lovers. But on the other side u r at the complete soft side and doing utmost u can to make ur home peaceful to live.

U said probably EGO make us to look like cunning ourselves ...but no dear, Behaviour frm other side makes to do like that...

Know what, My MIL has everyone to share her expressions and dominating in her home and in her daughter' s home. she is soft to me now because her son love me and just the moment she disturb me , her loving son will be my side.After realising this she is now good. But I cant forget the days where she tried to maintain mental dstance of her son with me. She always want her son to be her son and cant see him as my hubby. GENERAL THING! but ... Y she shd do this? When she snatched her husband from her MIL(She did it and my fil always hate his mom) and she is the supreme person for her hubby , daughters family and son, y she shd not leave her son to his wife? I know these r all having NO ANSWERS!! no one can answer these questions ...but any MIL cant be good to DIL ...similarly no DIL can be best to MIL...Because man is the bread earner and things changed now ,even women earning but...females (either mother, sister or wife) drags his attension and need his support and love....

Dont know how to vent out all the feelings now I' m struggling with, But If ever I get to think only frm her side,...I cant forget early married days when she didnt like me go out with hubby and didnt like her son to buy a good saree or ornament for me without buying for(Where as she insist her hubby(My fil) to buy everything only for her and she achieved it finally ...she has no mil and sil sufferings and my fil is almost a puppet)!

She n' joyed supremacy in everybodys(mainly hubbys) heart and its my turn to n' joy with my hubby. I never ask for any supremacy ..let him love his mother ...but I just need care and concern and she shdnt interefere my world.
But she cant be like that. When she is aged but cant show maturity, Y shd i think in soft corner.

No ,I dont want to give another chance to make her plans move on ith her son... Because All she want is her happiness and my SIL' s happness and every step shows it. if I just stop thinking ' bout my ego and my side...I just remain stranger and unsignificant person to my own husband. I dont wwant that to happen. Because she is intelligent ,smart and lucky that n' joyed hat a woman dreams of...So, I conclude if Saheli in my place wouldn' t have dared to think about it and write it even ! But probably saheli is in better position that atleast has no competition for her space in hubbys heart! Congrats dear!!

So saheli,Maintain hormonal relation ! And u r in ur way to go with her. Dia replied. hey ,Surprisingly I have good relation with her and we talk hours together in phone(luckily we r not in joint family) ...And by seeing us ,everybody thinks good MIL-DIL relation.She never comment me infront of meand I never complained her. But I know her feelings and her movements .I' m not mean.But she is greedy in matter of money and gold ,stuff.Add to her luck I never said no to my hubby when he buy gold and things for them...so things r fine.
The moment I become little selfish and egoitic,our relation surely become sour!! Its sure...!But anyway I dont dare to become like that because I cant spoil relation with them .I dont know I' m goodor not. But surely I' m not bad!