Hi gals,
I am going mad right now.is anyone else mom r mil is not coming for the deliveries?? if yes how do u go thru ..i am so scared..sorry guys for making u all feel annoyed by my continous sad
venting & whinning...Can anyone tell is there any
possibilty to reapply for my parents..if yes wut r the procedure..cuz we never been thru this kind of rejection & even path2usa doesnt have a clear message regarding this kind of issue..i donno if can try & just leave it..i cant,i cant sleep,looks like i am longing for my mom ...i dont want my last trimester to go this way...can i get a medical letter for post natal care & try for my mom again...pls help me to come out of this trauma...r i will go insane.. Avi(from the Nov board) replied. Hey Ashra, I just wanted to tell you not to worry too much about the possibility that you might have to do without your mom by your side during this time.

I know how disappointing it must be for you but I see it as whatever happens happens. If plan A doesn't go well, you move on to plan B cause the most person right now is the little baby and the most important person in the baby's life is going to be you and your husband.

I have a friend you is a single mom, leave alone her mom (who lived only a 1000 miles away but couldn't make it till 6 months after the baby was born) her boy friend who lived a few miles away wasn't there either. All she had were her friends who supported her emotionally and did whatever they could to help out.

We on the other hand, have such a large support system. We have our husbands, our aunts, uncles, friends, cousins who even if not present physically will support us in every way possible. I think we are way more lucky than a lot of people out there.

It would be great if our parents were with us physically to share this joyous event in our lives but if they cant we are fortunate to atleast feel their immense love for us unlike many people out there.

I hope you feel better cause if you are sad and distraught, that how your baby will be too...

Take cAre
-Avi Khushi replied. Hi Ashra,

I just opened the net in the evening & saw ur messages. Actually as u know i'm in my last month i was having terrible pain from last night then i go to the hospital at night & came back in midnight so i couldn't open the net in the morning. But i feel so sad after reading ur messages. I don't know much 'bout the rules of applying or reapplying in USA coz i'm in canada so i couldn't give u any advice on that but i can give u some support by saying that u r not alone in this situation. I also don't have anyone to take care of me here except my husband & some good friends. And i'm ahead of u in pregnancy & it's just 20 days left or may be less so if u wanna know anything u can ask me after 3rd september & if u need any type of help emotionally i'm always there for u. U can share all ur worries with me coz we r in same situation.

Ashra i just wanna say one thing that pls don't be so upset coz it's not good for ur little angel. Try to be happy & cheerful. If there isn't anyone to help us at that time God knows that & he'll give us courage to manage all this alone.

Good luck with ur pregnancy..

Take care..

khushi Uma replied. Hi Ashra,

This is what you should do:
Let your parents apply for the second time. What you should do from here is that get hold of a lawyer, generally the company lawyer can help you. Ask him to write a request for issuance of visa stating that you are expecting. Attach a medical report from the doctor and ask the doctor to show an urgency that there should be someone with you all day to take care of you. Generally in this case they get 1 year visa, but its worth.
The other thing they should do is to make an affadavit stating all the properties they have and house they may have etc.
They should also in affadavit mention some emotional ties they have like some very close cousin who stay with them and they are resposible for him/her etc. They can show that they have their parents who are old and they need to take care of them so they have to come back.
And any important ties which is strongly against being a potential immigrant.
In your case you can also let your mom go for the visa and not father, so that she has a reason to say that her husband is here taking care of the business and she needs to go and come back asap (Dont specify time limit ,just make it 3 - 6 months)

Take care and cheer up!

Uma