Hi,

Wut a heck my parents visa has been denied just cuz i am only daughter.Is that a fault to be a single daughter?? i am very much devastated & crying all night cudnt sleep even 4 a single min since i got a call frm my dad..i didnt talk to my parents only my hubby did.the moment i heard it was denied i donno wut went wrong with me i started crying..my parents had appt around 11.30 to 11.45 they were called to the counter within 20 mins .they had a translator also ,the
american lady asked
1.what purpose r u going?
2. wutz ur Sil & daughter doing?
3.how long they have been in US?
4.what r u doing?
5.during ur absence who will take care of ur business?
finally here it comes
6.how many issues do u have?
when she heard one daughter ,she didnt even look at my dad's doc (property,business,bank statement none of them )nor she gave chance for my dad to explain why he will come to india.she just denied visa under 214G by saying potential immigrant.wut kind of rule is this & frm when it started.My dad said they just deny if 1 daughter,2 sons in US,widower without even checking their docs.i cant stop crying i badly need my mom r i want to go to her.i am plsing my hubby to send me back to my mom.i cant manage without my mom,eventhough i have my aunty is coming & staying with me frm sep none of them will be equal to mother..i feel so lonely how can i get my mom here,noway if itz anything wrong with the doc we can reapply but for this case how can i reapply ,again the same ques will be asked ,i didnt even want them to go thru this again..i always have faith in god but y he didnt listen to me this time..is it safe to travel now
my hubby will never ever agree to this..i cant go & trouble him again..one good thing is they never wrote rejected on the passport..they have just gave a refusal letter.do u think still there is a 1 % chance of reapplying it..i really dont want to trouble my hubby as well as my parents...my dad called me 2wice since last night but i dont want to talk to him..if i talk i will start crying..it may makes him feel bad..
pls pray i want to go to my mom..i dont want to stay here without my mom...itz 4.30 am & i am crying all alone .....
Ashra Sandhya replied. Dear Ashra,

I almost cried when I read your message. The only thing that stopped me was the fact that I am in office now and would have to explain the tears. But like everyone else says, don't give up hope. Pray to God and ask your mom to apply again. Maybe she can apply first and when she comes to you, your dad can apply. Do what I do when things seem too bad. Think of your favourite God (in my case it's Siddhivinayak in Mumbai) and pray to him/her to help you. Alternatively, if only your mom comes there, stay with her for a month and then come back to India for a long holiday. Then later your hubby can also come for a hol and the three of you can go back home. Don't even think of flying back to India for your delivery. Think about the baby and think positive thoughts. Atleast your aunt is there to help you. From your msg, I think she is your maasi, see the very word means like mother. So if you have tried all options and your mom still can't be with you, think of your aunt as your mom. Also talk to your parents. They're already feeling bad and if don't talk to them it'll make them feel worse. I know coz my parents are always worrying about me in India even though my inlaws live near me in Spore.

Cheers and keep smiling!!!:)
Sandhya Ritu replied. Hi Ashra ,
Pls dont be so sad . Do ask your mom to apply again alone . I am sure it will make her case strong .Pls dont loose heart like this .
Best wishes,
Ritu Uma replied. Hi Ashra,
I just read ur msg and after reading culdn't control my tears too.But pls don't worry have faith in God and reapply i am sure ur parents will definately get the second time.Think positive and pls do talk to ur parents as at this time even they might be feeling more low then u as u being their only daughter.U see at least u all can apply nd reapply visas for ur Mom but me nd Radhika we can't even do that,so pls cheer up everything will be fine.
Take care my best wishes are with u,
Uma Suni replied. Hi Ashra,

I am so sorry after reading your posting. Let's all think what other options you have. Two things spring to my mind, one is for your mom to apply alone in 3 days(I think that is the time period we need before reapplying). This way, the fact that your dad is back in India, will show your mom's intention to return to India. Also, have your mom say she wants a one month stay period, so that there is no scope for them to say \";how can you stay away from your husband for six months\";.
The other option is for you to use your aunt's help during the delivery and go back home to India a month or so after for a nice long stay, especially since the weather also in India will be a nice winter. This way you can enjoy the company of both your parents and all their pampering.
Above all Ashra, you should pick up the phone and call your parents. You are their only daughter, and when they know that their pregnant daughter is upset, that will leave them so helpless. You should be their source of strength, and go ahead and aggressively pursue Plan B.
All of us are there for you and please dont blame yourself in this situation. Let me know if there is anything we can do to help you plan the next step.

Love
Suni sumana replied. Hi Ashra,

I know it is easy to say dont worry.Even i was in the same boat from yesterday, my mom went for her interview and they said there is some document missing and asked her to resubmit it.
My mother in law went a day before my mom and she got her visa, but i wanted my mom to come not my mother in law.I couldnt even tell this to my husband since he wld feel bad that i dont want his mom to come.
I am really feeling sad and dont know how it will work out with my mom.I just started crying after i read ur message, since i also felt the same thing like u did.I had also decided that if my mom didnt get her visa i will go to india didnt want to care for what the doc or my husband said.But now waiting to get the result of my mom's is even more worse.
Like bar said try to reapply again since they havent said rejected in the passport.
Take care and dont cry.
Sumana Radhika replied. Ashra ...its natural to feel upset hearing such news, but please try to control ur tears..this is something not in our hands. Think of the next best thing u can do..they can reapply and be positive ,don't give up, keep encouraging ur parents and calming them so they can face the next interview..sometimes we have to go thru a little trouble to get what we want, but beleive me, since having lost both my parents I have seen so many people helping me in so many ways and we all learn to deal with it..and it does make u stronger person.. Your parents must be feeling awful too and they being old, take care of their emotions...if u go weak will make them more weak later on when they apply..after all being a mom does mean becoming stronger because u are becoming more responsible.
This is not anyone's fault i agree..and i can understand your pain..I too miss my mom when i see other friends mom coming to visit them...positively i try to help them as much as I would have done for my mom..atleast we have loving helpful husbands...and God has blessed u with a child..right?
Luckily u have ur aunty coming over..which is such a big deal..to have anyone elderly around you.
U cannot travel now, but u still have 2 months, try to attend all the classes u have so u are prepared, no harm in asking your already mommy experienced friends to help out if u are hesitant about some issues..
Don't loose hope yet..everything's not lost..u still have one chance..u do ur best, leave the rest to God. Sometimes we don't understand why GOd does what He does, but its always for a better reason..though it really doesn't make sense now.
Ok..please don't get so emotionally stressed, ur hormones do change in stress and beleive me child can sense it...try to talk it out with ur husband and with us, relieve the pain and since worrying is not going to help u, child or ur parents, go thru forums, sites see others experiences, someone would have gone thru' this and find out how they handled it..ok..
DOn't know abotu ur inlaws but if they are free they still have time to apply. If not, try to have fun with ur aunt..
I hope u do call up ur parents and tell them not to worry..and prepare them for reapplying..u do have chances believe me..all u need is to be calm about it.
I know its easy for us to advice, I don't know what else I can do but pray for u..Hurts to see someone else hurt this way..
Please cheer up..go to path2usa experiences, forums, immigration(*)com has forums too...and u will get many tips from others.ok.
Take care. I am sure if u need to talk to someone, this is the best forum u have got.. hope u get better soon and do eat well during all this stress.
Radhika kalyani replied. Hi ashra,
Iam very sad after reading your posting.I was waiting from the morning for you posting.I know how you will be feeling now.I don't know what to tell.Cheerup dear.Don't cry and make your baby uncomfortable.You atleast have your aunt with you.But some of our friends whose parents got the visa rejected don't have any relatives arround them.They have to look after them and baby by themselves.
I too wanted to bring my mom here for my delivery.But due to certain reasons i couldn't.I too cried a lot when i came to know that my mom is not coming for my delivery.You know even today morning i cried to my hubby that i wish my mom is here for my delivery instead of my Mil.As bar said please don't travel to india now as its a very long journey.After your baby is born you can goto india.I too have planned in the same way.Please do call your parents and talk to them.Otherwise they will worry more.Please do take care of you and don't worry.

kalyani padosan replied. Ashra,
Sorry to hear this news. But please do not cry which is not good for you as well as baby's health. I completely understand your pain.
Its not the end of the world. Let me give you this fact. I have a muslim friend, who was expecting a baby last nov. Bcoz they were muslims (from mumbai) her parents visa got rejected with no questions asked. Immediately she applied for her in-laws. No doubt that got rejected too. For just one day, she was upset but she knew that she cannot help the situation. Its the stupid law.
Fortunately beings hindus, we do not fit into that category( nothing against hindus or muslims).
By god's grace, she had a normal delivery and she managed with her friend's and hubby's help and stayed here for just a month. Then she went to india for 6 months and had a good time.
That is why i say its not the end of the world. Somehow god helps us one way or the other. So trust him.
You should reapply. Doesn't matter if they ask the same questions. Our answer will be the same. This time, try to see if you can just get your mom alone. Will that increase the possibility of getting the visa? But please try to reapply. I will pray for you.

--Shreyu
Bar replied. Ashra
I was really shocked to read this.
As u were fearing that factor spoilt the whole thing.
I think they shld reapply. U can do so within 3 dys.
Dear, I really ustand ur position, but I think u shldn't travel now that too to India. I know noone can equal a mom, but u have ur aunt to be with u atleast.
But lets pray that they get the visa when they reapply. If not worst case u can go after the baby is born.
Plz dont trouble urself now, it will affect the baby.
Do look into path2usa and immihelp abt reapplying.