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Please give your valueable comments on my question:
I have been tried hard both for to get pregnent(8 yrs).and to set my career also.I know my child close to my heart ..my everything..and also if i don't work now, i might loose connection with my work, i may not get job in future, and i am 32 years old, i don't know how much effect it is going to take in my job , if i take the break?.i don't want to take my parents or inlaws help..i am worried that daycare may not be good for my child.i know that i can give the best for my child if i work.i work for her only, and also i am feeling guilty, i might be doing wrong thing by sending her to daycare , what should i do????... Vini replied. Sushma,
First you tell me what is your qualification and which place are you residing. Because Nowadays, there are a lot of jobs which can be done from house also. Like Data conversion etc or
tutions orSome website development from home etc.....
So to make money is not difficult from house also.
This time your child needs you and this time never come in life for this baby.
Chalo bye diamond replied. Dear Sushma,

You can not have both !! All full time working women go through this problem- so one has to decide his/her priorities in life. And since you don't want to take anyone's help, it beomces even more difficult. Qualification, talent and exeperince always count, so you shouldn't worry about timing etc. You can have a baby now and after 2-3 years(you will be 35 then, which is not late), you can look for a job. I know many girls in the US( mostly software engineers) who quit working for about 2-3 years and again resumed their jobs after their babies started going to pre-schools. So you see it is very common and women manage it successfully.

Or I have another suggestion- why don't you opt for a part time job- like accounting, editing, teaching etc?( Sorry, I have no idea about your educational background). In a part time job, you will have to work only for 4-5 hours a day and this way, you can spend a quality time with your baby. You can bond better & stronger then. You can watch all his activities and enjoy with him. This way you will not feel guilty about not using your qualification and at the same time your baby will get all your love and attention.

It may seem difficult today, but we still manage some way or the other. So you have to find your own way. We can only give you suggestions.

Good luck. Vini replied. Dear Sushma,
I thing You are correct at your place. Any Mother would think like you only.
Well my suggestion is that if you are financially strong enough so you can quit the job and take care of your baby.
And after sha start going to school and you feel like to do job then you can continue, as talent go nowhere. You can start that time also. You know to get the circumstances in our favour we have to sacrifice a bit too.
best of luck